Disclaimer 1: this is my 2nd, very wanted and tried for pregnancy. I'm delighted to be adding to my family.
Disclaimer 2: I in no way wish to offend or upset anyone dealing with pg loss, infertility etc who would probably willingly trade places with me and all my grumbles. I do know I am lucky and I really don't want to piss anyone off.
BUT.
I hate pregnancy. Oh, I hate this. I get HG and have a bunch of other issues which mean the whole thing is a slog from beginning to end. I'm exhausted. Constantly vomiting. Bedridden. I'm still carrying my weight from last pg and am only going to look worse after this as I get awful stretch marks and saggy uncared for skin. I can't eat anything except pork chops and chips due to the hg - and I'm a massive foodie in real life, so I'm bored of my food (and bored of seeing it twice!).
We had awful nt results last time (1:2, ds is fine after all) so I am petrified about my scan and will worry continually.
And I'm losing my hair again!
I am so pleased to be having another baby, but the cooking process is something I endure, not enjoy. But I really feel like if I try and sound off in real life I get the following responses:
A. I should count myself lucky to be pg and shut up (usually not from who have had problems ttc, afaik, who are usually lovely. More people who cite other people who have had issues.
B. I shouldn't complain in case I have a mc. Which makes no sense to me - I'm a bit practical and if I did have a mc, I wouldn't associate this with anything I said or thought.
C. I got pg by choice so it's 'self inflicted'.
Well, even if all those people are right, I'm still sick as a dog, and don't enjoy my pregnancies like others do. Can I make this Fred a safe place to have a waaaaah without getting flamed? Please?
Waaaaaah :)
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Anyone else hate being pregnant and need somewhere safe to whinge?
BelleEtLaBaby · 10/02/2013 17:22
24 wks, I'm so exhausted I'm
Being sick again
. Hormones are going nuts and feeling overly anxious and fed up. I want to not be called mum today. I want to go back to bed but instead I have to muster the energy to be 'dynamic and interesting' at work.
I want the house fairy to come and do my housework, make the meals and do the washing while I'm asleep.
Instead I'm working, looking after ds and the house and growing a baby. It's the hardest job I think I've ever done. There is no light either the weekend is taken up with kids and family parties and dh is ill but insistent on still working so making him worse .
Now to paint on the fake smile and survive the day ahead somehow. Time to pretend I love being pregnant and I'm glowing when in fact I've completely exhausted.
I need this thread! We TTC'd for 2 years 8 months before I finally got pregnant. This is definitely a wanted baby. I still hang out in the conception support thread where I was for 18 months and would never whinge about being pregnant there. I know how lucky I am.
But oh my days! I am 32 weeks. I have a UTI. The antibiotics are ramping up the reflux to epic proportions. I've got an irritable uterus - every time I walk I have Braxton Hicks! I still have 3 weeks left to work! I'd like to be adding sleep to the sleep bank but now insomnia has kicked in. If one more person tells me to make the most of sleep while I can I will slap them. Really? Does having a baby mean you get sleep deprived?! I never knew that!
OP I too have vomited in the sink and pee'd myself due to vomiting. I have had to work on my pelvic floor!
Only 15 shifts left to work :)
Hi havingalittlefaithbaby - glad I'm not the only one wetting myself. The indignities! It's hard to complain, isn't it, especially if people know you had issues. But the complaints are very real! Is it your first? I was very 
at people who told me to stock up on sleep in late pregnancy with my first: just as I was the size of a whale, covered in itchy eczema, riddled with heartburn and so uncomfortable I couldn't sleep at all and was spending my nights on the sofa scratching my legs to the West Wing! I figured it was training.
Had a serious conversation with DH this morning. I'm getting my tubes tied/sealed/removed after this one. If we change our minds in a few years and want a third, we'll adopt. We're in agreement. I never thought I'd entertain the idea of getting sterilised - I've got PCOS so I lived for a long time with the idea of fertility issues, but I can never do this again. I look at DS and I know it will be worth it again: but no more.
I'm 13wks today. Is that all???? I feel like I've been pregnant for a year. And September seems a really long time away: although its March already!? I'm signed off work until after the Easter holidays or until I stop losing weight.
Today's waaah - this cold is making the vomiting worse. On the plus side, DH has come home with Doritos :)
Yes, first baby here! We'd always said we'd have two. Then it took so long we said we'd be happy with one. Now he says he'd like 3 We'll see!
Yes the sleep bank comments come thick and fast. Recent one from a friend with a 3 month old....either she looks back on her pregnancy with rose tinted glasses or she had plain sailing in the third trimester!
I actually think I've been sick in the kitchen sink more than anywhere else..it's all the smells that trigger me off. Gone off chicken was the worst 
Try regular paracetamol and inhaling steam for the cold. Only things that helped me! :)
And on top of feeling crap because I'm pregnant, I'm now on antibiotics. My ribs are agony every time I sneeze or cough, and every so often a tiny bit of wee comes out with a sneeze or cough 
. I haven't washed my hair in days (the idea of standing long enough to rinse puts me off). And today, DH is back to work and then plays cricket so I'm going to have to look after DS on my own all day, when I barely feel like I can look after myself. The house is a tip, and I'm on a committee for a ball which is next week. I have too much to do to be ill.
The date for my csection will be made this week. DH wants it be as late as possible due to cricket finals, work etc. I WILL be stating quite clearly that the earliest date suits us fine. Stuff him. I want this baby out of me.
Ok I'm having it very easy compared to many but I HATE being a slave to my body! If I don't eat every 45 mins to 1 hour I start feeling horribly sick / throwing up - and I had two 90-minute meetings at work last week where I started retching a bit towards the end (disguised as coughing). It's so f**king undignified, stuffing my face with unwanted food before meetings / bed to try to ward off the sickness! And eating when you feel sick is rank.
DP is lovely but is fixated on how I should be more healthy, when all I want to eat is white carbs which stop the nauseating hunger for a bit longer.
And I miss lie ins! Was so happy today was Saturday, woke up at 7am to retch / eat, lie in ruined.
And my boobs are massive but not in a sexy way.
Thanks Belle for providing a place to whinge.
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:) Hey lady! A js-specific whine: no sex since getting pg either! Can't stand the jiggling. When I was pg with ds1, DH and I attempted at 16wks the slowest, barely moving shag ever. 2 mins or so in and I vomited all over his chest. We stopped bothering after that lol :)
My DH is like that about the health thing. I'm usually a very healthy eater, a real salad monster, but at the moment all I want is white carbs and cake. He keeps making me little salads and so on (which is really sweet) but I can't have onion or tomato so it kills me. When I had hg the first time, my hospital consultant said eat whatever I can manage, don't worry about being healthy or even your vitamins 
I was all: but what about the baby? He said not to worry, the baby will take what it needs from your body. If it needs protein it will leach it from your muscles, if it needs calcium, it will take it from your bones or teeth etc. The reason you need a healthy diet in pg is to replace all that and protect you, not the baby! He must have been right. I lost loads of weight, but had a 9lb 2oz whopper of a child, who was bouncing and healthy. After having him I lost a patch of hair, a tooth and I broke my foot! Mummy's little parasite :)
Hooya how many weeks are you now?
Today's waaaaaaaaa is still cold related. DH gets the good medicine (sudafed spray) and I get steam and saline spray
Belle, does the same thing apply to body fat 
? Does baby leach that off me because I could go with it!
No sex here either. ive never felt less sexy or interested in my life!Its too much effort and the jiggling isn't pleasant. Poor dh but hey ho, its not forever.
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