Pregnant with no. 3 / 4 / 5..?! Thread #2

[LimeLeafLizard]

If you're pregnant with your third / fourth / fifth DC, come and chat.

This probably should be in antenatal clubs now (?) but I wanted to post this in the same place as the old thread so we can all find it!

Here is the old thread

Seymore- I'm starting them this morning, but the headache woke me in the night! Bp started at 155/81 which she said was borderline then 30 min later 154/83, so they decided to do it once more 20 min later 159/94! So it's not as high as I've had it before but it's very high for me at 14 wks when it normally dips and starts to go up at 28 wks, she said its very high for this stage and now I'm thinking maybe the midwife was right I just need to get to 28 wks, and I jus have to accept scbu as what will happen and if the baby escapes that I'm blesses! The good news was no protein and the baby's heartbeat was amazing :) xxx

Oh no Sam that sounds like a nightmare with the BP issues - and it is very early on to get it! Guess they will be keeping a very close eye on you then. I didn't manage to take any BP meds on Monday as I was so sick, but when I checked it on our home monitor on Tues morning, it was fine - so I'm hoping that means I can stop the meds when i see the GP about it at the end of the week

Well I think everyone in the family is destined to get this dam sick bug . DH was ill last night and DS1 has been sent home from school at lunch time after he was sick. On the plus side, at least nearly everyone has had it now - only DD1 and possibly baby not had it, although I'm not convinced he isn't ill anyway. At least everyone will hopefully be recovered by xmas!

Went to get Harry weighed today, as he hasn't been drinking much milk over the last few days. He is only 8lb 14oz - so has only gained half a pound in 5 and a half weeks! So not sure if he has caught a bit of the bug, although he hasn't actually been sick he is definately not that interested in feeding much. Some of his feeds he is only drinking 1 oz

COD you are very patient - by the time I got to 38 weeks I was desperate for the baby to arrive - you are doing very well to be so relaxed!

Uh oh having one of those how will I manage with 4ds' and a newborn. So short tempered and emotional today.

Hopefully you will cope better than me COD - I haven't yet coped with all 5 on my own as DH has been off work for 6 weeks now! Fortunately our GP has been really good and signed him off with stress (although it has been quite stressful with all the post-birth problems!)

Oh and to make things even worse Harry is literally drinking tiny amounts of milk at each feed now - only an average of 1oz per feed, now having a panic in case he is getting dehydrated . Think I may take him to the GP's tomorrow to get checked out - they will probably tell me I'm just a paranoid mum, like usual

I'm sorry 5kids I know you have had it really tough and my worries really do not compare. I'm literally just having a moody day and it just so happens my kids are too! But 39 weeks today so I guess I'm also at the stage where this really is happening sometime soon!
I really hope Harry is ok and things get better for you soon 5kids

thanks COD. Harry has just had 2oz of his tea time feed - so thats a little better. I just never know when I should be panicing. I would hate to think he's ok, to find out I should have done something sooner.

Think I'm also having a bad day though COD. I just feel like a bit of a failure this time around. I never found it this hard with any of my others. I know we will get through it eventually. I also am occasionally thinking it is my fault and 5 kids is too many...which is probably daft as I know some people have much more than 5 . hopefully things will go much more smoothly for you when your baby puts in an appearance!

Congratulations Seymore! Hope all is well with you and LO.

5kids so sorry to hear you've all been sick and you've been feeling down. You have had such a difficult start this time round with the PE and then illness. I am sure things will get easier for you once you're well and fighting fit again. I hope that all is well with Harry and he starts to take more milk soon. Is he having lots of wet/dirty nappies? I think that's a good indicator of dehydration?

COD hope things happen really soon for you. I got extremely grumpy in the few days before labour so maybe it's a sign of impending labour?!

Sam sorry to hear your BP is so high - how worrying for you. Hope that things resolve themselves soon and bP comes back down.

Hi and congratulations Becky!

Lime DS finally came home 3 days ago. He was so poorly that first weekend, but then seemed to get better quickly too. He's doing well, sleeps pretty much all the time (my last prem baby did that, then from
3 months - 15 mths woke up through the night constantly!)

I hope everyone else is doing well

Hi all just popped in to catch up on how everyone is doing.

Congratulations seymore so pleased for you. What's your hair like?

No time to look back through both threads, so wondering what's the news about shelleybobs she was due about 4 wks ago I think from memory.

Sorry to see you're still poorly with high blood pressure 5kids, must be awful. Hope things get on to an even keel soon.

Babymoon is still doing well, she's fed well from the start and that really makes all the difference doesn't it. She'll be 5 weeks tomorrow, it has flown by. I was dreading the school run but it's been fine so far, as long as the eldest is dressed in her uniform then I reckon it doesn't matter if the rest of us are in pj's under our coats.

Best wishes for your pregnancies everyone!

Hi Moonhare glad to hear that babymoon is doing well.

5kids sorry to hear things are still not well with you and hope Harry starts to feed better soon. On the upside at least your dh has some more time off with you.

COD Not long to go now.

Well 39+3 today and feeling very emotional have a consultant appointment today to discuss the growth issue although at nearly 40 weeks not sure what they can do now apart from offer induction and if that's the answer wish they would just get on with it.

Just got back from GP, and labetalol are working :) bp dropped to 128/78 yippee now hope the headaches start to stop!

How's everyone else doing?

Good luck cherry

5kids it's all to do with the rough start you've had. As everyone gets better you'll get into a routine and it will all calm down.

sam hopefully the meds are sorting you out

I've been signed off today. SPD/AND , not likely to go back until after mat leave now, 25+3 :(

Hi all

5kids sorry to hear you all got it glad you seem to have a really sympathetic dr. Wow what a start you have had with harry! Hope things all start to settle down for you now.

moon glad babymoon doing well agree with you as long as dcs are dressed for school won't worry too much about me and baby (when I finally get to that point).

cherry hope everything went well today. Not long now.

sam hope bp stays down for you now and no more headaches.

craving glad to hear baby home

ood hope you are ok and getting to put feet up. Never had spd but it sounds awful :( poor you. Is the AND down to the spd?

Had a bit of a funny moment today. Walking dcs home from school it's all uphill and now (33 weeks) I really struggle. I was properly waddling today and slowed right down as I had a bh too. Was walking with another mum I only know to say hi to and she got really concerned and asked if I was ok because I'd slowed right down with the waddling! Told her I was fine it was just the baby, what baby she looked really confused.

She had no idea and was really shocked when I opened my coat (it's a really roomy swing coat, hides everything) and showed her my baby bump! Before she realised I must have looked really odd walking like that!

I'm still hiding my bump apples people see my crutches first.

AND not helped by the SPD/being limited in mobility but I've had PND with all the others so high risk anyway

Ood poor you :(. Do you find you have to explain the crutches?

Are you getting any help with AND? I suffer from anxiety anyway but have founds it's really flared up in this pg. I really hope it gets easier for you. This pregnancy lark ain't all it's cracked up to be is it? Still will be worth it when they arrive :)

Yes , usually then followed by 'didn't know you were pregnsnt

My PND/AND presents mainly as anxiety. Keep panicking about work/hospital appts/food I also hoard, last time was toilet rolls!

Oh that's horrible (the anxiety)! I get panicky prior to mw appointments etc so you have my sympathies (and some of these

Maybe people don't realise we're pg because of already having plenty of dcs? I find lots of people (when they realise) are really stuck on the fact it's no4. Still that mums face today was absolutely priceless :)

Oh just meant to add I find I can keep my anxiety under control by doing something that needs all my attention eg at weekends with dcs we do puzzles and board games (and at the mo Xmas paper chains). While they're at school between bouts of cleaning I've been doing cross stitch kits so my mind can't go wandering and fretting x

Ood Take the time off to rest and relax.

Sams Glad the bp has dropped.

Apples I have to agree this time pregnancy has been awful but will be worth every moment of it.

Have put induction off for now will need to go back for scan next week if no baby. Consultant did a sweep and I am now 2-3cm dilated really hope something happens over the weekend.

Ooh Cherry exciting! You could have a baby by the weekend

fingers crossed x

for cherry

Its been a busy evening again!

5kids Don't get down on yourself... considering you've had so much to deal with lately, you're doing amazingly well. Hope Harry's appetite picks up soon.

Moon Lovely to hear from you, glad babymoon is ok. Keep stopping by and updating us!

Craving So glad to hear your DS is home now and you can hopefully relax a little bit and enjoy the cuddles.

Sams sorry to hear about your BP scare - that must have been really worrying, even though you have some experience from previous pregnancies. Glad to hear the meds are working for you, anyway.

FX for you Cherry that things get going post sweep! And COD, sending labour thoughts your way, too!

Apple your story made me ! I've had the same sort of thing - went out with the new bunch of Reception Mums last week and a few hadn't realised I was pg (tho bump quite large - def noticible). I was slightly concerned that they had just assumed I am always this big! Likewise it is strange that your companion hadn't noticed the distinctive pregnancy waddle!

Ood so sorry to hear that you have AND as well as SPD. It does sound as though there may be a link between them? I had AND in all three previous pregnancies and miraculously seem to have escaped it this time. It was a complete nightmare and my heart goes out to you and anyone else living with it. Can you get any help? I had counselling last time which helped a lot. Here, let me pour you a .

39 +2 today and today is the first day I'd really just like this baby out now! I just feel 'ready' now but I do have a feeling that she is going to sit put until I have sweep on tues. I am hopeful that the amount of contractions and show I've been having means that things are happening so hopefully my cervix is doing me a favour

ooo - show is a very good sign COD. With this baby I woke up at 5am with show/ some contractions and he was born later on that day! Fingers crossed it happens soon so you will have time to get settled down with the baby before xmas!

Fingers also crossed for Cherry. There have got to be some more babies soon!

Sam I found the labetalol actually gave me headaches! It actually made me feel almost as bad as when I had the PE anyway - only realised that when I stopped taking it and felt much better almost instantly!

Well Harry seems to have picked up a bit now, feeding a bit better so hopefully he is a bit more back to normal. They said to take him back next week to get weighed so will see how much he has put on then. He still weighs less than DS1 did when he was born, and he is almost 6 weeks now

Decided to start doing some decluttering while DH is still off work, as there will be no chance of that happening once I'm on my own with the kids! Does everyone else have loads and loads of 'stuff' with more than a couple of kids? I don't like to chuck stuff the older kids have had as can reuse for the younger ones, and it seems a waste - but I seem to be running out of space for everything! Does anyone have any tips? Have promised myself I will sort through the spare clothes mountain and get rid of the stuff that is too small for DD2 (youngest girl) and the small baby stuff, which Harry didn't fit in anyway!

Yes, your show is a positive sign, COD, hope things get moving soon.

5kids you're brave tackling the de-cluttering! Yes, we have loads and loads of stuff. It doesn't all fit in the drawers and cupboards so I have to reorganise about every 6 months to move out of storage the things the little ones have grown into and move into storage the things the older ones have grown out of! I'm fairly ruthless about chucking / recycling the things that aren't often worn or played with.

lime I'm just sick of stuff literally everywhere! I think if all the toys/ clothes were actually put away, there wouldn't be enough space for it all to be away at the same time! Now worrying about where on earth all the things the DC's get for xmas are going to live afterwards

Think I need to be much more ruthless!