Pregnant with no. 3 / 4 / 5..?! Thread #2

[LimeLeafLizard]

If you're pregnant with your third / fourth / fifth DC, come and chat.

This probably should be in antenatal clubs now (?) but I wanted to post this in the same place as the old thread so we can all find it!

Here is the old thread

[Oodthunkit]

Ooh can't be far off seymore good luck :)

[SpringFlowers]

Hello Everyone

5Kids How are you getting on? I have been able to read but not post for an age and you have really had a very tough time. I hope you are on the up now.

Seymore You sound in good shape, hopefully by now you will be snuggling your baby...

I can't look back to previous pages so hope there isn't any massive news that I am not commenting on. I have been signed off work now until my maternity leave starts in January so on the upside the horrific stress should eventually pass but on the downside I feel like a flake for giving up and letting everyone down. Lousy. There is nothing worse than feeling that you have disappointed yourself. All of that said, I'm now nearly 32 weeks and am totally shagged out. SPD, dodgy hips, back, ribs, groin, anaemia and exhaustion are hardly making for exciting days nesting at home. Yesterday I went to Bluewater and acted as if not pregnant. Ooof. I am in bits today.

I hope everyone is very well and looking forward to the weekend. Any exciting plans?

[LimeLeafLizard]

Hi Spring, glad to hear you've been signed off. I understand why you might get that guilty feeling BUT I'm sure you know that really you've done the right thing - put the health of you and your baby first. And also hopefully your team will be able to justify some replacement cover so you don't need to worry about not being there.

I'm not surprised Bluewater was exhausting! I went to a tourist attraction last weekend and after just two hours walking and standing round on a guided tour in the cold I was shattered!

Seymore exciting to hear of your hopeful signs - hope the contractions develop into the real thing. I am kind of hoping they'll give me a sweep at 38 weeks this time for the same reason as you. DS3 was a very big baby so even though I'm not small myself it'd be great if this one were a bit more average!

[Oodthunkit]

Good to hear you've been signed off spring

[5kidsnobump]

Blimey Sam you sound like you have had a bad time with PE with all of yours then. Maybe it's just me the labetalol didn't agree with then...Feel miles better today - managed to take my 2 toddlers to the baby swimming session today, so definately must be feeling much better!

How exciting Seymore . Hope everything is progressing along nicely - sounds like you could definately end up with a Nov baby, rather than a Dec one!

Spring I wouldn't feel at all guilty at being signed off. I was signed off at 24 weeks with this last pregnancy, and started my maternity leave at 29 weeks - I knew work wouldn't be very happy as this was my 5th lot of maternity leave - so I just gave up caring what everyone else thought anyway!

[Oodthunkit]

5kids wow 2 toddlers swimming , brave!

[SpringFlowers]

Thank you for the reassurance, I know it was the right thing. I've been signed off until Jan 15 when I will start maternity leave. Exhausted tonight, but wondering where Seymore is...

[SeymoreInOz]

Hello, I'm still here! It all fizzled out around 3am, I feel a bit crampy but no actual contractions now. The midwife was right when she said third births are unpredictable! I bet this will go on for weeks.

spring don't feel guilty in the slightest, you're 32 weeks so would be going off soon anyway! I'm jealous of your trip to bluewater, although I can imagine you were shattered after. The high street here is not a patch on the UK, I really miss it!

[cherrypiew3]

5kids I am not due until 10th Dec so still lots of time for baby to move down I am just fed up. Glad you are feeling better and managed to get out hope the children enjoyed swimming.

Seymore* Fingers crossed it will all kick off again for you soon. My due date is 4 days after you and I have no signs of anything happening anytime soon and no sweep until 40 weeks.

Spring Don't feel guilty just try and rest when you can now and enjoy the rest of your pregnancy.

On something not pregnancy related but can anyone recommend any good books, dd is 10 almost 11 but loves to read and is very good she asked for 2 Jacqueline Wilson books for christmas which I have got. Tonight she mentioned that she would like some more books but wants me to surprise her and I have no idea what to get really.

[SpringFlowers]

Cherry During year six dd2 read the Twilight books, the Hunger Games books, she finished Harry Potter, read some of the Alex Rider books by Anthony Horowitz, some Lauren St. John and I'm not sure what else. I'll ask her tomorrow. It's worth registering (free) with these people too as their book lists are fab: www.lovereading4schools.co.uk/login

Seymore My third labour stopped and started for two weeks before I actually went into labour. It was very frustrating.

[Oodthunkit]

cherry check out later twilight books first though!

seymore frustrating! Hope it gets going again soon.

[SeymoreInOz]

spring I think that's what I'm in for! I'm just trying to ignore any contractions now or I will drive myself nuts!

cherry how are you feeling? I'm getting really tired in the middle of the day now, which might be something to do with waking up every few hours at night! Can you have a sweep any time after your due date?

I'm not sure what to do about the next sweep on Tuesday (I'll be 38+5), I think I might decline it. The show and the contractions after the first one were frustrating and uncomfortable and I wonder if the baby is just not ready.

This sounds ridiculous but I am feeling huge pressure from lots of people to give birth now. It's the constant comments about how huge I am, how it must be overdue, the shock when I say no etc. etc. One of the parents at school just laughed at me yesterday, and then said "oh it's because you're so short, the bump just looks hilarious." I honestly don't know whether to cry or go in with windmills!!

[cherrypiew3]

Spring and Ood thank you for the book ideas the dc are away this weekend with grandparents so going to try and have a look.

Seymore I am very fed up now and ready to meet my baby. Seem to be sleeping lots and still struggling with heartburn. Think that's a bit rude for someone to laugh at you and comment about your bump like that, you did well not to say anything. I seem to be getting the opposite my bump is not very big which I know but people seem shocked when I tell hem how long I have left lots of people keep telling me I am not going to be having this baby yet and I really don't want to hear that. Should be having a sweep on my due date not going to hold my breath though they have never worked for me in the past.
Hopefully baby will come before Tuesday for you and you won't need to think about that sweep will keep my fingers crossed.

Hope everybody else is well.

[Oodthunkit]

seymore think I'd have been pretty cross at that comment. When will people learn not to be rude to a pregnant woman?

[Cravingtomatoes]

Hope you're all well and Seymore hope your baby makes an appearance very soon...

Came to hospital yesterday evening with cramps - "not in labour", but was kept in overnight for obs as DC3 was prem. Went into labour at 3am and DS born at 5:30am at 35+6 - almost got to the 36wk mark! DH didn't make it in till 10am as no one to look after other DCs until then, but was the best labour so far. DS's breathing not brilliant but hoping to avoid NICU.

Good luck everyone else!

[AppleCrumples]

Wow congratulations craving hope everything ok with you and ds x

seymore just at the rudeness of some people! I have the same prob as cherry am quite 'neat' in the bump department and 2 people asked me if I was pg this week as they weren't sure! I am nearly 32 weeks! Tbf I do have a lovely big swing coat that probably hides it a bit :)

I am also pretty impatient to reach the end now. I have a horrible pain in my rib get bump ache at night, restless legs which are driving me crackers, heartburn and am now a grouchy grumpy hormonal cow! The poor hapless people who have to live with me are also ready for this baby to arrive!

And I have somehow lost my pg notes grrrr....

[AppleCrumples]

Oh yes and 2 of my fellow pg ladies at school have popped in the last month and I feel irrationally annoyed that it's all
over for them now! I used to be a nice person but right now I'm not fit for civilised company... :(

[Oodthunkit]

Wow craving had to re read your post cos it didn't click at first ! Hope your DS keeps out if NICU

[annelid]

Oooh congratulations Craving!!!

[Stressed81]

Im on pregnancy no 8. Have a son 13 then i lost a baby at 23 weeks and another at 15 weeks. Then daughter 8 son 6 son 4 and son 3. Im now 22 weeks pregnant. Partner left me 2 weeks ago so all on my own :(

[ShellyBobbs]

Wow Stressed what a lot you have had to cope with! Do you think there is a chance for your relationship? If not yhen massive ((hugs)), what a terrible thing to have to cope with on your own, especially given your history.

[ShellyBobbs]

*then

[Cravingtomatoes]

Thanks for all the good wishes. Didn't avoid NICU and DS currently there though hopefully it's a shorter stay this time and he can come up to ward soon and I don't have to leave hospital without him. He's a good weight at 6lb7oz. SPD is still bad which is really as it usually disappears after the birth.

Apple hope yours comes soon too - it's so hard in the final weeks and even harder when others are having their babies and you're still waiting for yours. Have some "labour vibes" to get you going - you too Seymore. Can't believe you're getting rude comments too - imagine if you made a comment about her appearance.

Stressed so sorry to hear about your losses and that your partner has deserted you. I hope things work out ok for you.

[5kidsnobump]

Congratulations Craving. Hope baby ,makes a quick recovery.

On no stressed . As Shelly said, is it definately over with your partner, or do you think its something you will be able to get through?

Hope things happen soon Seymore - I found all the waiting around for labour to actually start so frustrating. And had so many times I was having contractions, then it would all die down to nothing. Probably why I only got to the hospital about an hour before I actually gave birth - ended up being the quickest time wise from arriving at hospital until the birth, I think I had convinced myself it was just another false alarm

Odd the toddler swimming isn't quite as impressive as it sounds, as DH was with me - so effectively only 1 toddler each!

[Oodthunkit]

craving hopefully it's just your body hasn't caught up with baby being early. Are you getting to NICU plenty?

stressed no advice but plenty of support here. I split from my xh when pg with dd2, took ages to get my head straight.