Am I deluding myself and he isn’t ready?

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LT:DR 2y10m old can’t seem to recognise he’s weeing or wee-ed, after 2 days in pants, thought he was ready, do I give up again and wait?

I’ve written a post in chat already that was meant to be humorous about my 2y10m old DS who shows all the signs of being toilet trainable but just won’t entertain it.

I’ve shipped the elder DCs off for five days to try and nail it but as I approach bedtime on day 2 of our second attempt, I find myself thinking maybe he isn’t really ready as he doesn’t seem to know when he’s weeing at all - and will merrily continue what he’s doing with wet pants and legs, socks etc.

We’ve had no wees or poos on the toilet, many on the floor and one DP is adamant was purposely done - in the Lego box.

And we’re visiting the toilet every 20 minutes at the moment!
With nothing going in it!
And nothing on the sticker chart he chose!

I’m not new to potty training, genuinely trained a lot of children but none as old as mine with no wee recognition this late on! Or no “ooops, wee-ed!” and no wees on a toilet at all by the end of day two.

He starts school nursery in a few weeks and I know from past experiences they’ll change a nappy but begrudgingly so, so I do feel under pressure!

Has he been bare bum at all? We avoided pants for weeks till potty training was nailed, they can feel like a nappy and then they just wee freely.

Have you tried keeping him naked or with just a top on for a couple of days so he can recognise the sensation of needing to go?

Dont worry once they start childcare it helps to make them want to toilet and be like there peers.
Plenty of changes on the bag! To bad if teachers dont like it.
I found it was stop start then one day it happend.

@OrangeSlices998 @Ansells we have yes, during our last attempt and then again during the last heat wave and he didn’t like it at all! Went off in search of nappy or his siblings pants!
Which was another clue to him being ready I thought.
He’s very stubborn which isn’t helping.

I would keep trying at least for the full five days you’ve set aside and see where you are at the end of that.
Good luck!

Stick to it for 5 days. Stop taking him to the toilet and watch like a hawk instead and as soon as he starts pick up and put on the potty.

Definitely keep bare bumed, even if he hates it. My son hated being bare bumed too, but I just had to put my foot down and stay consistent. Do not take him to wee at intervals, it interferes with their ability to recognise the feeling of needing to go and being able to hold it. Don’t give a rewards incentive, such as stickers – it’s a basic human function and isn’t necessary or particularly helpful. Lots of praise when he makes tiny steps is sufficient.

At 2yr 10m I would not wait any longer. ‘Signs of readiness’ are a bit of a myth anyway. If he’s a developmentally normal 2yr old, he can learn to toilet in a potty, just like all the other skills he’s learnt.

He has a mild speech issue but normal milestones and good level of understanding - confirmed by the speech and language team, confident the speech issue isn’t affecting potty training.

3 pairs of wet pants in already. Plus one chair and booster cushion.
Still no acknowledging being wet, and he was sat in wet at the table for a few minutes before I realised he’d wee’d.

DP wants to give it until the end of today then call it quits if there’s no progression.
Feeling rather defeated already today, I’m inclined to agree with DP and wait another 6-8 weeks before a restart.

Stop putting him on the potty when he doesn't need to go - you're trying to teach him to recognise when he does need to go.

Give him loads of squash to drink, stay in one room with the potty near by and watch like a hawk. As soon as he starts to pee, lift him on to the potty and praise/reward.
Keep doing it and hopefully soon you/he will recognise when he's about to pee.

Don't sit him at the table if it means you're not noticing when he's peeing.
Definitely stop putting him in pants at least for a day or two.

No help just solidarity here! Currently potty training our DTs we’re on day 2 . Had one tiny wee in a potty and lots of wet pants. Mine do notice they’re wet and ask to sit on the potty but just don’t seem to do anything. Have tried bubbles and sticker rewards. Think I might try bare bum tomorrow if no progress today. I fully intend on sticking out the week as I’ve taken it off work so may as well see where we are by the weekend!

I think my own issue is that I’m used to seeing progress by now and there’s nothing.
Same as last time we tried.
Either we’re missing something or he’s missing something.

Bare bum causes him distress so I’m not really keen to go back to that.

Hopefully something will change today.