Traumatised 3.5 year old holding everything even in nappies

[Foreverautumn1]

Hello all,
My first time posting here and I’m just looking for anyone who has been in a similar situation.
My 3.5 year old daughter had a weird virus a month ago and this lead to a uti followed by another one. She’s now had 3 lots of antibiotics, but it’s left her traumatised and she’s now holding wee and poo all the time despite wearing a nappy. We did try and potty train her to see if maybe this would help but it was too traumatising for all of us.
It’s affecting our daily lives as she’s so uncomfortable all the time and complaining that her downstairs hurts despite her not having an infection anymore (she’s been tested). I’m at my wits end and it’s making us all miserable as she’s so upset and will even hold it in her sleep. I’ve tried everything and nothing is getting any better 😢.

Have you tried putting sudocrem on and telling her that it’s special cream that WILL make her better ?

Yes I have, I’ve even tried giving her a placebo ‘medicine’ telling her it’s magic and means that nothing will hurt anymore as she’s all fixed. She’s just in such a state about it all 🤦🏼‍♀️

Then you need to contact the HV for some help.
Does she go to nursery ? Is she the same out of the house if you take her to the park or for a treat ?

Potty with a bag of sweets and read a book together?

My daughter did this for a while after a UTI. We sat her in the bath with the water running and let her go there (and showered her off afterwards). Once she realised it didn't hurt she slowly started going again.