DD 3.3 just weed all over floor

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I heard a gushing noise. She was standing legs apart weeing through her knickers onto floor and slippers.

Came into bed with me for a cuddle this morning after night time nappy off, poo dealt with, knickers for the day on and weed on my leg and in bed.

Yesterday went through three outfits at nursery.

We have a DS due in April. Is this why she is doing it?

How am I supposed to respond? Indifference even when it's clearly naughty behaviour? The downstairs loo and potty were mere metres away.

She's done it three times today. Once at neighbour's, once at nursery, once back at home.

Anyone?!

Was she previously dry?

Sounds miserable - can you use a reward system and plenty of attention and praise when she does use the Potty? Is there a small treat she would love that you can use as an incentive? I'd try not to get angry although I can imagine how annoying it is.

If that doesn't work, I'd be tempted by pull up pants until the phase passes to save your floors, bed and washing machine? (That's just me though, I'm not known for my patience and its probably not what experts would recommend)

Pourquoi - 90% yes. She would have the odd accident but it would be more of a leak from not getting there in time rather than what's happening now.

Carly - the weird thing is I feel she is trying some of the time and then not others. So trying not to be too cross but realistically not managing v well. Have just dropped her off at nursery for the day so will see how she gets on there.

I want to get it sorted bc I feel that ATM if we went to one of her friend's houses, usually the girls run upstairs and play while me and the other mum have tea in the kitchen but right now I don't feel I could let her as she might do a massive wee in another child's bed!

Thanks both. From talking to people in RL I suspect there is no 'answer', just time and adjusting to the imminent interloper. Feel like we shouldn't have told her a new baby's coming as apparently she is likely to regress again once he's born (that's if she gets back to normal in between now and April!).

Don't think of it as naughty behaviour. She could be feeling slightly under the weather or maybe she was distracted - either of those things can make toilet-trained children have accidents. If you're sure it was deliberate then it's a sign she needs reassurance about something, young children have control over what enters and leaves their body and you don't want to inadvertently start an ongoing issue in that area.

It may not be related to the baby, irrespective of that she'll be noticing new things with her new cognitive awareness and skills, and the world may generally seem a but scary if she's going through a developmental leap. She'll get through that by reassurance and moving at her own pace.

Any signs that she may have a uti?

Thanks all.

Praise - yes doing lots of that but will keep going. She's very talkative about how babies can't wear knickers or pants and need nappies but this isn't translating to behaviour. I think that's half the bother for me - she is so articulate but what's happening physically just isn't matching up with her chat.

For ages we've had a little choc reward at end of day for keeping knickers dry and she's always responded well to that. Last night I tried something new and said you can have your flamingo cuddly toy back if you keep then dry all day. Felt really mean but it was suggestion of someone I consider eminently sensible and frankly am at wits end.

UTI - don't think so, alas (what a terrible thing to say...).

Think you're right mismop. I am going to go and buy a big bundle of cheap towels/ tea towels so I can deal easily and quickly with 'scenarios' as they occur. I think she is doing it on purpose to be honest, some people say best thing is to ignore it, not comment on it just deal with mess and change of clothes so I'm going to try to do that.

Another nursery mum mentioned a bday invitation for her this morning and I know I'm going to be really anxious about it even though I'll be there. I want her to have a good time of course but I don't feel I can have her creating a big puddle in middle of party - imagine if it happened at soft play and the whole place had to be closed. A little leak is obviously no big deal. I don't want to put her back in a pull up as I worry she might decide she prefers it!

Argh. Sorry that was long

mipmop not mismop, sorry.

I should add we are still very much in night time nappies - not even thought about when to start that yet and the nappy is v full each morning.

When dd was that age the first sign of a UTI was gushing wees having not even attempting to go to the toilet

One time she was climbing a ladder on a slide and it just poured out like it was never going to stop!

High temperature was a symptom that developed about 5 days in

I would get a sample checked just incase

Thanks 18, did your DD do that every time or was it the odd gush interspersed with normal potty/ loo behaviour?

Should be able to get a sample to GP tomorrow to rule it out although she hasn't got a temp and is well in every other respect so I'd be surprised. Have had her checked for it twice before, neg both times.

She would use the toilet in-between but there were often 2 or 3 gushes a day

You wouldn't have thought a small person's bladder could hold that much!

It could just sort itself out whatever you do . In the meantime, "this too shall pass".

18, I'll try the GP in that case.

Mipmop - yes I have been holding tightly onto that eternal truth!

Thanks again.

Quick update she was dry yesterday. Will see what today brings, at nursery now. Didn't take a sample in the end as I don't think it can be a UTI if it goes away for a whole day!

That's good to hear.

Dry again today. Thanks mipmop.