We're having a second attempt at potty training DS (3.1) after a failed effort in the summer. We previously tried for just over a week and he never managed to go in the potty (except when I caught him mid-wee and put him on the potty).
We're having another go now as he seemed interested in the idea of toilets etc. Pre-school commented on this too and suggested it might be worth another try. Day 2 today and it's just the same as before. He can hold his wee well, going a couple of hours at least between wees. He will sit on the potty reluctantly, but never goes and assures me he doesn't need to go/has finished etc. But a lot of accidents are within minutes of sitting on the potty. Also, all his accidents so far in this second attempt have been when I'm not in the room.
We've been referred to a paediatrician due to ASD concerns with DS and we're waiting for an appointment. DS isn't able to articulate any fears he might have about it all. He isn't great at asking for anything so I'm not at all sure he would tell me he needs to go. But I try not to ask him or get him to sit too often as it annoys him. He's extremely stubborn and won't do anything he doesn't want to!
I've asked him if he'd prefer to use the toilet or stand up to wee; response was a point blank upset refusal (did I mention he's stubborn?!). I've tried leaving the room when he's on the potty as he seems to want privacy. I've tried reading to him/giving him a toy to hold while he's on the potty to try to relax him as he looks tense. The only progress from last time that I've noticed is that he gets upset when he wets himself now. In the summer, I had him naked from the waist down and he didn't seem to care about wee running down his legs. Now he's in pants and trousers and doesn't like the wet feeling.
Any tips or similar experiences very welcome!