How to proceed from here

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2.9 yo DS started potty training 2 weeks ago after announcing he wants to be like his cousin (who uses potty:toilet)

He is quite willing to have a wee and has had several poos on the potty with no fuss - is rather pleased with himself in fact! The problem we are having is that he isn't communicating his need to have a wee/poo. If I don't happen to see him fiddling with his pants and get him on the potty pronto, he will just wee or poo where he stands in his pants. Every time I say "oh never mind, try again next time" and put him on the potty where he will almost always finish what he started.

I do keep asking him if he needs to (think he gets a bit fed up though) and I make sure he sits on it regularly, and will almost always wee then. He can stop mid flow too, so has some control.

He refuses to sit on the toilet - even on the toddler seat that goes on top. We put pull ups on when we go out, but I have just ordered a travel potty to try. About 50% of the time the pull ups are still dry when we get home, so he goes straight on the potty for a mega wee.

Do we just keep going as we are, and hope it clicks and he starts to tell us when he needs to go before I run out of carpet shampoo? I'm afraid I got a bit frustrated today when he had a second wee on the carpet. As I was cleaning up I tried explaining that he should tell me when he wants a wee, and even as I was talking he weed again on the carpet right in front of me Is this a sign he's not 100% ready (even though he seems keen) or will we just plod on?

Id say keep going. Sounds like he is getting the hang of it especially if holding it when out. You said about pull ups but does he have big boy pants? It is frustrating but just go with the flow (no pun intended)! I found just filling up a soapy bowl of hot water with cloth and leaving it there for the morning made it less frustrating everytime it happened?! Any books/programmes about toilet training?

Thanks jenna
We are putting big boy pants on when we're in the house - we got lots of different character ones and he chooses which ones he wants to wear. We also got the Pirate Pete potty book (he loves pirates!), which we read every night while he's on the potty at bath time. He's gone so far to say that he's just like Pirate Pete too.
It is so frustrating isn't it? Just when you think you're getting somewhere they wee/poo on the carpet and you feel like you're back to square one. Doesn't help that I'm surrounded by people whose DC potty trained in 3 days at 18 months either! (Or so they'd have me believe!)