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Potty training

Is your child ready for potty training at nursery? Here's the place for all your toilet training questions.

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Has anyone successfully potty trained at nine months?

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mameulah · 15/05/2013 00:17

Apparently in Vietnam this is the norm. Pregnant Mums whistle during their pregnancy when they go to the toilet, and then when they observe their child weeing in their nappy.

I know there will be lots of opinions on why this is not the right approach but I wondered if anyone has successfully potty trained their baby from very early on?

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NatashaBee · 15/05/2013 00:20

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mameulah · 15/05/2013 00:22

Elimination communication. That is new to me, will do some more investigating. Thanks

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kotinka · 15/05/2013 00:24

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raisinggirls · 15/05/2013 00:24

Yes - it's very clever, but it is training the mum, not the baby.

In Vietnam, for example, traditionally the mums would have carried their babies with them all the time, all day, and slept with them at night. They really get to know their babies' cues, so they learn when the baby is going to wee or poo by their body language.

Presumably the baby still needs to wait to understand their own body to the point where they know for themselves when they need the potty.

BewitchedBotheredandBewildered · 15/05/2013 00:35

Lots of babies in the 50s were held over a potty from about 6 weeks old. Coupled with quite strict feeding routine I think it was about predicting action and catching it rather than actual training.
The mothers did have a lot of incentive, terry nappies, no washing machine or tumble dryer. Plus of course it was what their mothers did.
But I'm told they were out of nappies by around 12 months.

mrssprout · 15/05/2013 01:02

I would have thought that until a child is aware of the need to go, can hang on until they get to the potty & then go all you really have is toilet timing not training. I was under the impression that children were not physically capable of hanging on until they were about toddler age, not little babies.

looseleaf · 16/05/2013 02:13

Yes I did this with DD though not DS. At 2 months I googled as wondered how more primitive societies managed and it opened my eyes! It worked for her and was amazing - I learnt her rhythms (eg at 2 months she'd cry slightly when needed a wee and I'd know she wasn't hungry or anything else) and made a 'SSSss' noise she soon associated with a pee so would wait til I made it before she peed?

I'm so glad we did it and I let it go for a bit at 1 when she was too busy playing/ I felt I was annoying her putting her on the potty so put her back in nappies for a few months.
A book called 'diaper free' helped me. And the easiest time to start is just after a nap as they'll always need a pee.

With DS I made the same noise if ever noticed him pee so he's always been aware but I didn't get round to much more. He just potty trained almost by himself at 21 months and totally dry but less good with poos- so maybe this still helped him?

looseleaf · 16/05/2013 02:18

Mrssprout they certainly can hang on until over the potty as get used to the noise I made they associate with peeing. So a very young DD would wait til over the potty then go immediately when I have her the cue. It was amazing really as taught me how sophisticated young babies are. I only did this whole had time and while felt natural. DS and I somehow felt less in tune with it so I just left it! He's much happier in pants as I had him in pull ups for first 3 days and he'd complain saying 'no nappy'!

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mrssprout · 16/05/2013 02:53

looseleaf , you learn something every day, I had thought they weren't physically able to hang on, apparently they are......very interesting. Although when I had really little ones I don't know if I could have managed this, it must take a lot of dedication to get it going & keep doing it.

looseleaf · 17/05/2013 10:17

I forgot to say it gets harder or doesn't work well if you haven't started before a year . According to the book but I'd agree

Mosschops30 · 17/05/2013 10:23

I trained all 3 dcs at around 3 years if age.
All dry day and night within 5 days

Why people put themselves through all this just to say 'well mine were trained by 3 months'
I think waiting leads to less time in the end, no need for pull ups etc

looseleaf · 17/05/2013 19:44

MossChops I think everyone does what suits and feels best for them and their child and with 3dc you I assume realise it isn't a competition.
For me to start when I did was it was just a part of knowing my child, saved a lot of nappies and money (and quite environmentally conscious and I didn't even need the energy washing reusables). Not something I did either to tell people or prove anything. I get your point it wasn't for you and the main thing is you found what did work

brettgirl2 · 19/05/2013 09:28

Moss that's great if it worked for you and you were happy to fork out for nappies until the age of three. However waiting until 3 is not a guarantee of easy training or life, there are loads of people who have issues later. From about 20 months to 2.4 years my daughter withheld poo because she hated going in a nappy and was too scared to use the potty. Thankfully she decided using a potty was ok far before others you read about.

Therefore with this one I decided to get her used to the potty as a baby instead of waiting and hoping for the best.

brettgirl2 · 19/05/2013 09:30

oh and in answer to the op no! However I put her on the potty at change time from when she could sit up. In truth I think all this ec is for people who never go out. Mine is 16 months and deffo still in a nappy.

tourdefrance · 19/05/2013 10:23

Did ec here. Dc were not 'potty trained by 9 months or whatever but the vast majority of their poos went in the toilet or potty. Much more pleasant for everyone. We did not stay at home all day either! Dc were in nappies but generally held it until we were at a public toilet - plenty of those around!

looseleaf · 19/05/2013 12:46

I'm with Tourdefrance - there are plenty of toilets out and about and we went to mums and babies groups etc most days so I didn't find EC restricting.
Also DD liked her sling a lot (DS didn't ) so when tiny she'd fret slightly if wanted to come out for a pee. So being on the move with her was easy, she never once peed in her sling but always when I'd positioned her and given her cue iyswim

brettgirl2 · 19/05/2013 13:02

I meant the no nappy-type ec from the olden days. A friend of my mums was apparently in pants at 6 months . Back then they didn't go out as much. I also get most poo in the toilet/potty with this one but I'm not ready to take her out in pants yet....

tourdefrance · 19/05/2013 14:50

Moving on to pants only seemed a big priority with dc1 but was just stressful which dc1 picked up on. I was much more chilled with dc2 and he ended up coming out of nappies earlier. Both dc were in childcare too from 6 and 10 months and their minders were happy to carry on with it, it was just part of their routine always offering after sleep and food .

PetiteRaleuse · 19/05/2013 14:55

I was advised to start early with DD1 for poos as she got constipated. I looked on here and saw advice was to leave it. So I did. When I did train her at just turned two it was late for France, but apparently early for the UK. With hindsight I would go back and do it quite a bit earlier as her constipation has cleared up completely since she has been going on the potty. Something to do with it being a better position and a more pleasant experience I guess.

mythical · 26/05/2013 09:30

I have started putting dd on the potty because she has started doing more solid poos and she really struggles to do them in a nappy.
I picked up on the fact that she sits on the floor and pulls her knees up so I figured it would be more comfortable to do it on a potty and it helped her a lot. She was 11 months when we started.

Debbylou · 21/06/2013 19:56

thank god I'm not the only one training early :-) my ds is 15 months and started to show interest in where mummy went so regularly lol so this morning I took him with me , told him mummy is going for weewee and he promptly said weewee and did a lil wee on the bathroom floor cue much praise and fuss from me :-) next time I took him with me n sat him on the toilet said weewee and hay presto he did it ! this has continued hourly all day :-) I tried because I was trained by age 2 as was my brother , she managed to train him while caring for newborn me and my grandmother on her own so I figured if she could do it I'd hav a go :-) i'l let you know how tomorrow goes .

VisualiseAHorse · 25/06/2013 13:57

I looked into EC before DS was born. Now at 14 months, he is still in nappies full time, but I'm aware when he needs to poo, and we get a few poos a week into the loo when at home.

The aim for me was for him not to be scared of using the loo or potty when it came to it. I started doing it around 7 months (weaning = more solid poo!), every time I saw him pooing in his nappy I would say 'poopoopoo?' If I sit him on the loo now and say 'poopoopoo?' he'll strain a little, and sometimes it will come. If he's nappy free during the day, he tends to do a teeny wee just before he poos so that's a good sign to whisk him off to the loo. I figured it would also be good because I'm at home with him all day so I can observe him constantly. He's never really given a sign for weeing, but at the moment, I'm just happy that he'll sit on the loo with no fuss.

Sometimes (while wearing a nappy) he will find his potty and pick it up, signalling that he's doing a poo!

IShallCallYouSquishy · 01/07/2013 18:24

I'm glad I found this thread. Today I have got a toilet training seat to use with my 13 month old. I have loosely followed baby whisperer with her since she was tiny and from revisiting the book between 9-15 months is an ideal time to start.

I'm not expecting miracles but will see what happens. I'm not bothering with potty as we have a loo on each floor (townhouse) so always one in reach.

I'm going to build it into her daily routine and stick her on the loo first thing and then after drinks and food and before and after bath.

Would love to have her dry earlyish but I'm not pressuring her as she is still a baby

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