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Sex and stitches whats the average

27 replies

angie1984 · 13/03/2018 23:03

My DD is nearly 6 weeks old, she is my first and i was wondering what the average number of stitches people got post labour as when i told a couple of ladies i know that i had had around 30 (25 internal and 5 external) they looked horrified and one assumed i had had a stage 4 tear. It was only a two but quite deep apparently and i was also wondering how long after birth did most people have sex for the first time, i'm not quite ready yet though DH is ready to go.

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TittyGolightly · 13/03/2018 23:07

i'm not quite ready yet

Then it doesn’t matter what anyone else did or didn’t do.

though DH is ready to go.

Surprising. Hmm

JazzyJefff · 14/03/2018 17:53

I'm not sure how many stitches I had, but we waited until 9 weeks after before we had any sexy time! Blush

Betty2416 · 14/03/2018 17:58

I had an episiotomy and had sex again just under 3 weeks pp it was painful at first compared with the first time after dc1 when I didn’t have stiches but all ok now

SnackSnackEatAndCrave · 14/03/2018 18:06

They didn't tell me how many stitches I had, the doctor said it was "just one really long stitch" but I had a forceps delivery with an episiotomy and a 3rd degree tear... So lots of stitches! I don't think we had sex for about 12 weeks after... Which sounds like forever but we were so sleep deprived we hardly noticed!

Isitwinteryet · 14/03/2018 22:31

I had a 2nd degree tearing and stitches, 5 months PP and I've not been able to yet. :(

LolitaLempicka · 14/03/2018 22:32

No stitches, one week.

DramaAlpaca · 14/03/2018 22:36

Stitches - no idea how many
Sex - just before the six week check

There's no rush, everyone heals at their own pace. Wait until you are ready.

coffeeforone · 14/03/2018 22:45

I had an episiotomy and had sex just before my 6 week check so I could mention to GP if there were any problems. It was a little uncomfortable but ok. I think by about 10 weeks it was fine.

ASqueakingInTheShrubbery · 14/03/2018 22:52

Don't know how many stitches, 2nd degree tear, no sex until I had my new implant in at 8 weeks. It was a bit uncomfortable for a while but got back to normal.

DuckBilledAardvark · 14/03/2018 22:58

No idea how many stitches but I was bleeding for a good 6-7 weeks, so not until after that stopped, I think it was about 8 weeks both times.

I had episiotomys for both births and forceps for one and despite the forceps one being significantly more painful (I couldn't sit down for the first 10 days, I think they'd done a stitch too tight as when it came out it felt a bit better) to start off with, when it came down to doing it the sex was easier after the more traumatic birth.

BUT it doesn't matter what I did, do what you feel comfortable doing and don't do it before you are ready.

AvoidingDM · 14/03/2018 22:58

Your not ready yet - enough said!!!
Sleep deprived with a newborn, and tender bits.
Who the heck cares if DH is "ready to go". He can go entertain himself....

TheLuckDragon · 14/03/2018 23:03

Forceps and episiotomy and didn't even attempt anything until 8 months PP. I just wasn't ready before then. Glad I waited as it was great and completely painless!

PollyCotton · 14/03/2018 23:05

No idea how many stitches I had but 3.5 months later & I'm still firmly of the opinion that I'm never having sex again. I should probably let DH know... Grin

NinaMarieP · 14/03/2018 23:22

No idea how many stitches but it took an hour in theatre to put them all in!

7 months pp and currently feeling like nope, nobodies ever going near there again!

NinaMarieP · 14/03/2018 23:22

nobody's*

Hahanotfunnymylifeisamess · 14/03/2018 23:23

I don't know how many stitches I had. Was nearly a year before we had sex again. I wasn't ready before that. Just do what feels right to you.

cadburyegg · 18/03/2018 05:04

With DS1 it was 7+ months as my stitches broke down and I was left to heal naturally. 6 weeks is no time at all

Twitchett22 · 29/03/2018 14:57

I had 15 stitches for a second degree tear and now almost 3 weeks pp. Since my swelling and bruising has gone down I've had literally no pain with stitches or scar, to the point i wondered if some nerve endings had been damaged or something Blush so I'm feeling very comfortable but just daren't attempt sex yet. Think I'll wait til after 6 week check and make sure my contraceptions sorted lol!

Kingsclerelass · 29/03/2018 15:07

Forceps delivery and two layers of stitches after 40 hour labour.

I wasn't interested in anything except cocoa & sleep for 7 months.

Kingsclerelass · 29/03/2018 15:10

To be fair to d-ex, having stayed for 40 hours, then dealt with the whole "can't find a heart beat, this baby is coming out now" scenario, he wasn't in a rush either. Grin

Sup3rnan · 29/03/2018 15:15

After your first check up at the clinic ensuring everything is ok and only when you are comfortable to re engage in sex.

MissWilmottsGhost · 29/03/2018 15:20

2nd degree tear, one continuous stitch.

We resumed our normal sex life at 4 weeks. My idea. I thought if I left it too long I would be too scared to start again, like falling off a bike Grin

We were very careful and it still wasn't too comfortable for me. DH was terrified. Probably we should have left it longer, but I didn't want to. If DH had been more pushy or had less self control I would definitely have left it longer, but I knew I could trust him to be gentle or stop immediately if I wasn't happy.

Eryri1981 · 29/03/2018 15:24

I had a small grade 2 tear, with a few stitches (midwife didn't say how many). Had sex after 6 weeks. Didn't really feel ready, but also felt that the longer I left it the bigger a deal it would become for me.

GimbleInTheWabe · 29/03/2018 17:34

Oh god.. DS is 5.5mo and me and DP haven't had sex yet! Tbh if I have time to do that I'd rather have a bath or nap. My sex drive is so low after DS and I haven't even had my first period yet!

SN31x · 10/04/2018 21:08

I had a 2nd degree tear and had sex 4 weeks later and I was surprised at how much it didn’t hurt. Obviously a little bit of sensitivity at times but nothing to make me want to stop x x