If one more person says "Oh yeah sleepless nights with a newborn are normal"...
Yes we fully expected to be up several times for feeds during the night and that would be fine.
We did not however expect to be up over 20 times every night and no naps at all during the day unless on walk/in car (finally diagnosed silent reflux yesterday after 7 wks). I just think there's a massive difference- one is bearable, the other is literally like a form of torture!
What irks you that people say?