the law of attraction, can someone answer my question?

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i understand that our thoughts determine our feelings, our feelings become our deeds etc

i understand that happiness is from the inside out and not the other way around

i understand that what we focus on gets bigger and that we attract what we think about.

but, how the hell do you choose your thoughts?

i can sit down and puposefully think positive about somethings but unwanted thoughts just pop up all the time!

i don't want to think irritated or angry thoughts about my partner, i want loving thoughts lol but it seems beyond my control.

please explain...if you can

btw i have recently read every manifesting, law of attraction, cosmic ordering, positive thinking etc book in the library and i still don't get it

I am no expert but I think the key is repetition over a long period of time thereby fooling the brain in to thinking that is what you really believe. A bit like smiling will make you feel better even if you start off miserable. Have you tried looking at CBT books?

no never tried cbt. atually been doing really well and improved a few areas of my life already but i've got pmt this week and it's beginning to slide lol

does anyone else know anthing about manifesting /law of attraction?

Buddhism talks about 'skilful actions'. Skilful actions obviously come from the mind. Meditation concentrates the mind into performing skilful actions.

Actually, it's a lot more complicated that that but if you are interested there are loads of books and websites (buddhanet.net).

Cheery you can't help the odd negative thoughts that slide into your mind that's natural. Just acknowledge it as unwanted, thank wherever it came from and try & focus on the positive thoughts (difficult with PMT & DP's I know )

It does get easier!

o.k