Help me wise mumsnetters-tell me about mediums, the good, the bad and the ugly....

[DarrellRivers]

Here's my background.
My brother died suddenly a few months back. My SIL and mother have felt it would be helpful and comforting to see a medium.My SIL went today and I'm sure my mum will go soon.
I suppose I hail from a sceptical camp, being a scientist and also being naturally a bit of a cynic. |Any religious faith that I used to have seems to be being whittled away as the years go by.
Tell me both sides, as I want to understand how helpful it can be for others and I feel like this non belief on my side is driving a wedge between myself and my mother and my SIL.

have managed to escape for a couple of hours. was walking home from sainsburys and dd's dad went past and asked if we wanted a lift. well, yes cos we still had half mile to walk and dd was not interested in awlking anywhere today

hows you lulu????and the house?

that is good luck ! all well, house is quiet mind oyu, DD very different character now, much less frustration and stuff going on..

sorry for hijack, darell

sorry darell

well, it's not from the classifieds my experience, it's from living with people who thought they could talk to the dead. And I just happen to think it's a load of bollocks but I appreciate that's my viewpoint. Personally, I think mediums exploit people. They exploit sad and lonely and desperate people - maybe sometimes though, they give people what they want by pretending they have spoken to the dead and that can be comforting, I suppose, if that's what you are looking for. But I don't think it is right.

DR asked for both sides so I'm telling her the other side. When you're dead, you're dead and no amount of medium mumbo jumbo is going to be able to let you talk to the dead person. But I appreciate that when there are things that have been left unsaid or a sudden death occurs, the need to be able to have a last word with that person must be overwhelming and I can sympathise with that need. Death is so so awfully final - I can understand why the thought that there may be someone out there who could give you another 5 minutes would be so attractive.

i understand wher eyou're coming from fox, but just because the body is dead does not mean that the spirit is. the body is merely an overcoat for the soul. but then whatever i say is not going to help change your mind and i respect your right to your own view