Thought I'd give you all an update
The bad fairies have gone. I still don't know if they bring my depression, or if they come because of it, but a cleansing, and a shift in the air later, and they are gone...
And... the original good presence has returned!!!
I didn't realise how much I had missed her (no idea why I lean towards a feminine). She's p*ssin about no end with moving things - took out the lounge lightbulb this morning !!! But she is bringing this warmth back, and is helping to settle DS in the night (always a bonus).
Thinking about it, she has come back since I started looking at my tarot cards again, and I announced that I might possibly maybe be ready to accept things maybe, possibly, maybe... Maybe I have had her all wrong - I have always felt she was sent to look over the DC... maybe she is here to help guide me?