The guy who wrote the Dilbert cartoons and books, Scott Adams, had a really interesting chapter on this and other quantum type things, will dig out references in a bit.
Whilst not exactly in the mode of 'official' Cosmic Ordering, all the major things I wished and dreamed for earlier in my life have come about, but via a very tortuous and at times stressful way. Perhaps if I had fully focussed and given myself permission to be who I really wanted to be from early years, instead of living a life that was outwardly successful but internally messed up, i would have got there earlier and happier.
Small example...for a few years I ran old cars, and really wanted a Ford Focus...now I have one, it is twelve years old and is perfect for my needs. No big deal in some ways to have just about the most common car on the road, but it falls into place with other things I wanted in my life.
Not explaining myself well here, but it may be that if I had clearly focused (geddit) on what I really wanted , the universe might have provided in more obvious ways.and faster.
Another facet of this is that your sub-conscious may concentrate on the things you consciously want, and helps you 'see' things that were always there but were not of interest to you before hand. Now that I have a green V reg Focus I see them everywhere !