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Energy vampires - can they be cured?

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iris66 · 01/11/2005 08:57

Does anyone have any tips? I always protect myself - particularly when I work - but have a close family friend who always leaves me feeling utterly drained and miserable whenever I am in her company.

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Xannie · 01/11/2005 09:54

Smudge with sage. That's known to be good for protection.

Enid · 01/11/2005 09:55

imagine a mirror in front of you reflecting them back at themselves.

WigWamBam · 01/11/2005 10:00

I googled, and found this:

Look in the mirror?Sometimes we are the Vampires. If we pay attention to our thoughts and words we can eliminate the Vampire in us. Are you being negative or positive? I ask myself this often.

Confront and Reform-Tell your Energy Vampire (EV) that he or she is being negative. They may not even realize it. Ask for support, positive feedback and encouragement from them. If your EV is a colleague, family member or friend, perhaps you can reform them into an Energy Addict. Show them how to spread positive energy. If they just don?t see it or refuse to do it then you may have to give an ultimatum. You might say, "This is my goal. This is where I am going and if you?re going to be negative then I can?t be around you.

Turn on the Light?When you were a child and scared of the dark you turned on the light and felt better. Negative energy is like darkness. When you encounter an Energy Vampire, turn on the light. When an EV comes at you with fear, negativity, hate and anger turn on the light and respond with love, kindness, and positive energy. Negative energy is powerless in the light. Think about what happens when someone gets mad and yells at you. If you don?t yell back they lose momentum and power. If you return with kindness they lose even more power. On the other hand, if you yell back at them then the negative energy grows and grows.

Run?Run as far and as fast as you can. This sometimes is the best technique if you are not close with the EV. You only have so much energy and in today?s world you need to keep all you have. If, for example, you are in the grocery store and you see someone who drains your energy then run away fast. Really fast.

colditz · 01/11/2005 10:11

is an energy vampire one of those people who says "How are you? Well I had this and that and the other to contend with..."

before you even answer them

People who leave you feeling like an enormous ear.

Helsbels · 01/11/2005 10:39

I used to have a quite close friend who was an ev. I hadn't seen her for years due to some really bad stuff that went on involving her ex. I saw her the other day after about nine years and she looked wonderful - she came up and gave me a hug and made all the right noises but I had to tell her I was sad because my dad had died two days earlier. She immediately said ' oh well what do you know my brother in laws sister (her sisters husbands sister) died two weeks ago' I just said I was sorry and walked away with her phone number that I will never use. SOmetimes these people can't change. It will always be worse for them., they will always have the worst break in life whatever. Feel sorry for them for that moment and walk away if they have had nine years to change and still haven't made it. {{{}}}

iris66 · 01/11/2005 18:42

She's not particularly a misery guts, nor does she expect me to be an ear for her problems (she's lovely and we do see her a lot) but she does always appear to operate from fear (feels like she has a big greyness around her, which envelops me too, which is perhaps what I'm picking up on. EVing seems to be the only explanation I can come up with.

WigWamBam - your tips are really useful. I can't remove her from my life and I don't think she'd react well to my pointing out her negativity but I will certainly try to be more positive around her. Have tried sending her healing remotely but even that is draining. Will send her more positive vibes directly next time I see her and take it from there.Thank you.

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colette · 01/11/2005 18:47

Helsbels so sorry about your dad.
Hopefully you won't see her for at least another 9 years.

HuggyBear · 01/11/2005 18:50

Do you G&P iris?

iris66 · 01/11/2005 18:57

G&P ? sorry Huggy am confused

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HuggyBear · 01/11/2005 18:58

Ground and Protect - only allowing positive energy to affect you, just love and light

iris66 · 01/11/2005 19:03

and Helsbels - so sorry for your loss (sounds lame now after not putting in previous posts but is genuine) - I want to say "you're all ok now" but know you're probably not. Horrid time for you - good job you've more supportive people than her around you ((((hug)))).

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iris66 · 01/11/2005 19:05

Huggy, yes I do. But I feel as though I'm having to constantly re-do it all the time around her. Maybe it's not working so well 'cos I'm pg ?(though don't know how that can be as everything else appears to be working 10x stronger IYSWIM )!

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HuggyBear · 01/11/2005 19:06

A really good place to ask about this is mystic familiar they are fab!

HuggyBear · 01/11/2005 19:07

oppps that link doesnt work - here

iris66 · 01/11/2005 19:10

Thanks Huggy, grateful for the pointers. Neither link works for me though so I'll google it & take a peek.

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HuggyBear · 01/11/2005 19:13

lol me and my links!

www.mysticfamiliar.com

iris66 · 01/11/2005 19:19

You mentioning the link has just made be think that maybe my fears are being reflected and that's why the G&P isn't working so well. Had horrid flash thoughts along the lines of ...ooh isn't it going to be a bit intense in there and bet I'm going to be out of my depth etc etc....

Pants (lol). Clearly some significant work on self is needed
Thanks Huggy - when the time is right the teachers come etc etc etc

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HuggyBear · 01/11/2005 19:54

I think you have a good point about fears being reflected - a while ago when i was doing my G&P (i use a bubble) in the corner of my visualisation i could see a figure shooting arrows almost trying to pop my bubble, i would put bricks all around it...

I eventually realised it was my own insecurities that i was seeing, I worked on my chakras a bit and it was the heart chakra that was the problem, it was making me feel anxious and insecure. I worked out what was making me doubt myself and put it right, balanced my chakras and slowly the figure disapeared.

I still have days where if im working on my chakras one of them is unbalanced and i keep dropping it, i have to visualise a stand for it to hold it in place whilst i figure out what it is thats affecting me

Its like an early indicator of a problem for me

iris66 · 01/11/2005 20:07

Heart chakra is my weakness too. I went through a lot of auric cleansing about a year ago and came across a big black box of "shame and guilt" (attached to my whole family for some strange reason) which I now think I might not have quite managed to sever connections with (spookily enough it's made me remember that I used to have a recurring dream, when I was about 8, about black boxes exploding).
it's a new moon tonight so I'll do some meditation on it and see what gives.

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HuggyBear · 01/11/2005 20:09

Do you have any cyrstals?

Rose Quartz, and Jade work really well with the heart chakra

CountessDracula · 01/11/2005 20:11

what on earth is an energy vampire?
(from a real one)

HuggyBear · 01/11/2005 20:13

An energy vampire is someone who drains you of energy, you see them and end up feeling worn out and tierd. You can also pick up negative emotions from them too - someone who can make you feel totally crap when you were feeling fine before.

iris66 · 01/11/2005 20:30

Huggy I wear crystals a lot (cleanse variously on new and full moons, depending on how everything's feeling). I use rose quartz, flourite, amethyst and obsidian mainly. Think the glitch lies with me though in as much that maybe I've not addressed the attachment properly because I'm fearful of what life's like without it.
CountessDracula - an energy vampire is a PITA

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