So 48 hours on as a guest at both the ceremony, wedding breakfast and reception I did not notice:
What music was playing when the ceremony was going on
What the readings were (outside wedding, too noisy with the wind at the back)
What music was playing during the meal
What the reception decorations were like (although the flowers are the table were lovely)
What the cake looked like (was whisked away to be cut up before I saw it)
And finally the buffte at the night do hardly got eaten so don't spend a fortune if the guests are invited to everything
Kids were invited and it was lovely to see them all running around enjoying themselves
Thought this might be a useful thread for people to add to