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Upset and bothered.

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JollyRoseSheep · 18/06/2024 21:00

My husband and i went to our nieces wedding and my husband was giving her away. At the reception we went into the restaurant and the lady seating everyone told us that we were on separate tables. Hubby on top table and I was seated with five other people who I did not know and they all knew each other. I spent a lot of time staring at my plate tried to get my hubbies attention but failed. I really felt walking out and I am still so angry. I am right or wrong.

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JollyRoseSheep · 20/06/2024 10:27

ShouldhavebeencalledAppollo · 19/06/2024 19:14

At 82 your husband drove 1000 miles in a weekend for a wedding for people he doesn’t like?

So your husband wasn’t happy. But also was until he witness the behaviour. But even then didn’t say ‘let’s go’?

They didn’t mention it because to a lot of people it’s obvious he would be on the top table and you wouldn’t.

again, when was this?

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He said lets go and I go not get out quick enough. Giving them the silent treatment now.

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CleanShirt · 20/06/2024 11:36

What a mature way to deal with things.

IncognitoUsername · 20/06/2024 11:57

JollyRoseSheep · 20/06/2024 10:27

He said lets go and I go not get out quick enough. Giving them the silent treatment now.

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Considering what you have said about them previously, I would imagine that they have neither noticed or cared that you are not speaking to them.

Pineapplewaves · 20/06/2024 12:08

I can understand your DH being sat on the top table as he played the role of Father of the Bride and I guess he made a speech too?

I think it was rude to sit you on a table where you didn't know anyone, I would have sat you next to other people that you knew.

Do they not like you very much? Were you only invited because of your DH's role?

BodyKeepingScore · 20/06/2024 14:43

JollyRoseSheep · 20/06/2024 10:27

He said lets go and I go not get out quick enough. Giving them the silent treatment now.

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Are you 14?! What kind of adult gives other adults “the silent treatment” as opposed to having a reasonable discussion about your grievances?

Soonenough · 20/06/2024 23:23

I don't think anyone will care about your pathetic silent treatment.

Julimia · 23/06/2024 22:08

Ifvhecwas hiving her aeay i would have expected thst to be the situation table wise for you both. Would it have helped or not had you known it before it happened? Why were you staring at your plate. ?

StaunchMomma · 23/06/2024 22:19

JollyRoseSheep · 18/06/2024 21:12

I found the situation totally unbearable as they all knew each other and talked excluded me. Also had remarks made as to what I drank and one was such a smArt arse saying was I taking my Dad to bed. Just hated it.

Wedding venues usually have bars, and wifi.

I would have been at it, getting slowly pished and doom scrolling.

You really didn't have to stay there, OP. The meal is only a part of the wedding. You could have made yourself scarce for an hour or so.

Nottheusualsuspect84 · 23/06/2024 22:20

At my step brothers wedding I was sat with friends of my step mum and not my other siblings I was absolutely devastated, especially when one of the ladies I sat with said shouldn't you be with the family and not us. I told them I was happy I got to be there and celebrate his wedding day. Thankfully I had a lovely conversation with them and I had a lovely evening.

Motnight · 23/06/2024 22:20

Ereyraa · 20/06/2024 06:46

I don’t believe you are in fact, jolly.

GrinGrinGrin

Vse500 · 23/06/2024 22:24

is this for real 🤣 most older people I know don’t use phrases like piss heads. Don’t believe a word of it.

muddymuckymoody · 23/06/2024 22:31

Seriously??? Everyone but everyone surely knows that it’s the bridal party at the top table = bride and groom, best man, bridesmaids and parents. As you’re none of those, why would you expect to be at the top table? If your husband were best man or you were bridesmaid, would you expect to be sat together?

Frankly every post you’ve made shows you’re a lover of the drama!

Islandgirl68 · 23/06/2024 22:34

Even if you could not be at top table you should have been put on a table with other people you know.

Crystallizedring · 23/06/2024 22:43

Why do you think they should have told you about the seating plan in advance? I didn't tell anyone until the day of the wedding because I knew someone would kick off. Likely the same reason why they didn't tell you.
It's a massive drama over nothing.

viques · 23/06/2024 22:46

Ereyraa · 19/06/2024 06:23

Imagine going through life being like this. What a waste.

I feel so sorry for the niece, first of all for not having someone else to walk her down the aisle and then to have had two sour faces making everyone else feel uncomfortable at their bad manners and anti social attitude. I hope she didn’t feel too embarrassed in front of her new in-laws and other guests at this selfish, childish display by people who should have been making sure she had a wonderful day.

Demonhunter · 23/06/2024 22:48

JollyRoseSheep · 18/06/2024 21:27

It was not a pleasant evening at all. The others at the table talked amongst themselves most of the time. Still I do not have see them ever again. It has always been like this with my sister in law, she cold shouldered me the first time we met 59 years ago. She did not like another female around and oh boy she showed it.

I thought you were early 20s the way you're going on! You're in your 70s acting like this? Wow!

74Violette · 23/06/2024 22:48

1ittlegreen · 18/06/2024 22:02

YABU for calling him hubby 🤮

That was the bit that put me off too.

viques · 23/06/2024 22:49

JollyRoseSheep · 19/06/2024 22:50

In fact the meal was horrid fish over cooked and cold. No tea or coffee to finish with.

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It was in a hotel, you just ask them. Oh I forgot, you don’t talk to strangers !

DonnaChang · 23/06/2024 22:50

OP, I learned at about the age of 12 that not everything is about me.

I’d suggest that, at your advanced age, if you haven’t learned that already, there’s no hope for you and your promise to cut people off isn’t the punishment you think it is.

Azandme · 23/06/2024 22:53

JollyRoseSheep · 19/06/2024 20:00

This was said as we were leaving. We left before everyone else could not get out quick enough.

So the, "Are you taking your dad to bed?" was said as you were leaving early with your elderly, 82 year old husband, and therefore probably a crap joke about old people leaving early and you looking younger, so ageist, but not actually the incestuous abusive inference of your earlier posts...

Bs0u416d · 23/06/2024 22:57

JollyRoseSheep · 18/06/2024 21:29

They could have said the day before and the whole has made both us very angry.

He can't have been that angry if you failed to even meet his gaze and get his attention over the course of 3 course wedding breakfast and speeches, toasts etc etc 😂

smooththecat · 23/06/2024 22:59

I’ve been in this situation. It was shit, I didn’t know anybody and it’s a whole bloody day. Fine if you’re on top form, otherwise can be very challenging.

CuloGrande · 23/06/2024 23:00

You are a real ray of sunshine ☀️

andfinallyhereweare · 23/06/2024 23:00

It sounds like you went in with the attitude of not enjoying it and got what you ordered

PorridgeEater · 23/06/2024 23:01

I wouldn't have minded having breakfast just with husband, but you should have been able to sit with him at wedding meal. No fun being with that group. But it's over now, no point in being angry - they won't know or care.