Upset and bothered.

[JollyRoseSheep]

My husband and i went to our nieces wedding and my husband was giving her away. At the reception we went into the restaurant and the lady seating everyone told us that we were on separate tables. Hubby on top table and I was seated with five other people who I did not know and they all knew each other. I spent a lot of time staring at my plate tried to get my hubbies attention but failed. I really felt walking out and I am still so angry. I am right or wrong.

@RoobarbAndMustard

See above, they were the only relatives invited to the wedding.

At first i thought it was rude if there were other family you could have sat with, but sounds like there were not ? As your the only family members?

I can imagine on the top table she had already had seats taken for those involved in the wedding party.

OP is asking whether she's right to be upset and bothered. I'd be upset and bothered if I'd been stuck on a table with someone who was making conversation jocular or not, about my being involved in child abuse/incest.

It was the way it was done as we had in fact been at SIL house on the Friday afternoon with all, they could have said about the seating then, but no it was sprung on us at the moment of sitting down. Nothing we could do other than leave the reception. Hubby did think that I would be OK with it but having listened and witness the behaviour of some on the table said it was totally wrong. I just wish that I did walk out with the excuse of going to the ladies. oWe put our selves out for them by driving 500miles each way and my hubby is nearly 82 and I do not drive. As I have said we should have declined the invitation. These relatives are known for their rudeness and other members of the family have refused to engage with them in the past.

Your table companions are known for their rudeness in the family - so in other words, they have shoved you onto a table they knew no one would want to sit at. Poor, in my opinion. The top table might not have been appropriate/feasible but they shouldn't have made you the odd one out on the 'naughty table'.

But they probably wouldn't think to mention it, it's absolutely standard for the other half of the couple not to be on the top table.

You seriously walked out of the reception?

No I did not walk out but I should have.

At 82 your husband drove 1000 miles in a weekend for a wedding for people he doesn’t like?

So your husband wasn’t happy. But also was until he witness the behaviour. But even then didn’t say ‘let’s go’?

They didn’t mention it because to a lot of people it’s obvious he would be on the top table and you wouldn’t.

again, when was this?

He was stepping for his brother who died last year. The behaviour in the past really upset my FIL. He wanted nothing to do with them. I don't we could really say lets go at 10.00pm in the middle of nowhere. Drove down Thursday and Friday and back on Sunday and Monday. Never again for them.

They said what now?!

That was said at the reception in front of my husband so he heard that smart arse as well. So I am not making it up.

If your husband heard the smart arse remark then you weren’t on your own the whole time then? Or was he just passing?

This was said as we were leaving. We left before everyone else could not get out quick enough.

I don't think he said "are you taking your dad to bed". It makes zero sense.

Maybe he said "you taking grandad to bed" or "her dad to bed" if he assumed it was the brides dad.

Not the point, just a thought

Because that would be a perfectly acceptable alternative remark ... not.

No of course not. I said that it's not the point didnt I?

Soz for trying to make it make sense

Sorry, I misunderstood your meaning.

No probs. They sound like tossers. I wouldn't sit my older relatives with them.

I think I would be surprised and disappointed but try to make the best of it. Not sure about really angry. If everyone else on your table was horrible then it is understandable you wouldn't enjoy the meal.

This is all sounds made up.
No one can be that bitter and harbor such grudges.

It is not made up

In fact the meal was horrid fish over cooked and cold. No tea or coffee to finish with.

I think you might be the most bitter person I've ever seen posting on MN. And I've been here a while.

I don’t believe you are in fact, jolly.

I’m confused - was the meal at the restaurant the reception or was there something else afterwards? And were the rude people part of the family or not?

The meal was in the hotel restaurant and we were staying there as well. The five people that I was sat with were not family and certainly not friends of mine. They all knew each other as they lived in the area (we did not but some 500 miles away). Other than the bride, groom and brides mother we knew nobody. Most were a bit of a clicky group and piss heads into the bargin.