Upset and bothered.

[JollyRoseSheep]

My husband and i went to our nieces wedding and my husband was giving her away. At the reception we went into the restaurant and the lady seating everyone told us that we were on separate tables. Hubby on top table and I was seated with five other people who I did not know and they all knew each other. I spent a lot of time staring at my plate tried to get my hubbies attention but failed. I really felt walking out and I am still so angry. I am right or wrong.

I would have moved hotels let alone tables to get away from you!

You sound lovely, can't think why you were seated away from people and stared at your plate.

@JollyRoseSheep is DH really upset about this - or does he just agree with you for the sake of a quiet life?

This was me this year at a 60th. I was seated totally apart from anyone else I knew well. Slightly surprising as i was a single guest. But I chatted politely all evening to my table. Lovely people; might never see them again, but they were my host's choice of guest. So I as a perfect guest engaged. I was lucky my table was lovely. But I can't imagine being sulky at my age about a slightly less than perfect placing.

I can picture the cats bum face now.

YABU for calling him hubby 🤮

I love how you tried to get your DH’s attention but he ignored it. I suspect he secretly enjoyed having a break from your moaning. 😂

If you hate them all, you shouldn’t have gone.

It's not about you I want to tell you to get over yourself but I think I might have felt this way when I was younger and got annoyed as you have. You've just got to pick your battles and this is one that you will regret if you don't plaster on a smile and be happy for the couple.

It's fairly standard that the person giving the bride away would be sat at the top table. The bride was not rude or thoughtless for not knowing you didn't know this. I'd chalk it up to experience and move on. You had a lousy time, not nice, but the day wasn't about you and your husband.

Agree with this. OP sounds like hard work.

No he did not like at all being on the top table with that cow.

Why did you even bother going to the wedding if you dislike everyone who was there so much? Surely you’ve created a whole fuss over nothing?

His sister?

You do not come across very well here. It was his nieces weddings . Not about you. You sound deeply unpleasant and I can understand why people would move to another table . The woman you refer to as cow is your SIL , your husband's sister and obviously wanted to have an enjoyable time at HER DAUGHTERS wedding . It is an honour to walk the bride down the aisle , if your husband didn't want to do it , he should have said so. I think your sulking angry presence could have spoiled the wedding . I hope not . Just think , now you never have to see the cow and her daughter again if you don't want to .

I understand you OP. It’s rude to sit couples apart u less you know they will be ok with it especially when you put one person with nobody they know.
I don’t have a dad so my coach from when I was a top level competitive swimmer is giving me away. He was like my adopted dad for years, always looked out for me and I loved him like family (maybe more). It would not occur to me to seat his wife on another table at our reception. Especially as English is not her first language. I will seat them with a few others from my old team, plus some of my fiancés running pals and their wives and I know they will all be compatible. We are doing the seating plan very carefully to make sure nobody feels uncomfortable.

Thanks HcbSS you have understood what has happened. The only people that I knew at this wedding werre on the top table, the crowd I was sat with half were pissed and loud smart arses. As a non drinker felt very intimidated by them. Still do not have see any of them again.

I'm sure they're just as pleased they never have to see you too.

Your poor husband, having to deal with all that.

Imagine going through life being like this. What a waste.

The difference is that your coach's wife does not despise you, your mother and the rest of your family, (and has made that obvious for best part of sixty years).

The way OP speaks about the bride's mother is awful so why would she choose to have her at the top table souring everything. When you marry you choose people you love or at least like - and who want the best for you - to be near you and share your day.

Taking your Dad to bed? That's an awful thing for someone to have said. Generally I'd have said YABU to be upset about being parted from your husband for two hours but if that's a sample of the conversation you were exposed to, your degree of pissed-offness is more understandable.

This is so old now.
Grow up.

Was 59 a typo!

I was wondering this too!
If OP is 70/80 and was put on a table with 20-30 yr old boozer blokes its abit crap.
But if OP is that old....The dad comment doesnt make sense does it????

I actually think it was poor behaviour in general and agree with @HcbSS (seating as described by her is normal wedding etiquette tbh) BUT given the animosity they clearly have form for this nonsense so it should have been expected.

Tbe OP has been a bit emotional but I dont think anyone would really want to be sat with a load of people they dont know who they have nothing in common with. And most of them would be annoyed and or upset about it.
The responses on this forum get weirder ever day. I understand why people are leaving mumsnet.

You sound like hard work op. You wouldn't be in top table as you weren't part of the wedding, just as guest. Odd that you think you should be.