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Upset and bothered.

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JollyRoseSheep · 18/06/2024 21:00

My husband and i went to our nieces wedding and my husband was giving her away. At the reception we went into the restaurant and the lady seating everyone told us that we were on separate tables. Hubby on top table and I was seated with five other people who I did not know and they all knew each other. I spent a lot of time staring at my plate tried to get my hubbies attention but failed. I really felt walking out and I am still so angry. I am right or wrong.

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SaulHudsonDavidJones · 18/06/2024 21:27

TattieBap · 18/06/2024 21:22

Does any of this really matter?

Well yes, clearly it does. It might not matter to you but everyone feels differently.

nupnup · 18/06/2024 21:28

JollyRoseSheep · 18/06/2024 21:15

I am supposed to be family not a friend attending. We had no warning that we would be at separate tables even hubby is upset about it and thought it was thoughtless of them.

Being family doesn't entitle you to the top table.

Being angry is a huge overreaction.

I think you're being ridiculous.

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JollyRoseSheep · 18/06/2024 21:29

They could have said the day before and the whole has made both us very angry.

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TattieBap · 18/06/2024 21:29

You're coming across like you don't like any of them OP. Perhaps they sensed this.

nupnup · 18/06/2024 21:29

SaulHudsonDavidJones · 18/06/2024 21:26

Op, you should have been seated with your DH. It was rude to put you elsewhere.

Why? She wasn't a part of the wedding party.

Indianajet · 18/06/2024 21:30

Years ago my husband was best man at a wedding and I was seated on a different table - I didn't know some of the people, but managed to have fun anyway.

showmethegin · 18/06/2024 21:30

You sound totally ridiculous and petty. The meal was what 90 minutes/2 hours. You really can't just get on with it and make small talk?

How many people do you think should be on the top table?! Grow up

nupnup · 18/06/2024 21:30

JollyRoseSheep · 18/06/2024 21:29

They could have said the day before and the whole has made both us very angry.

You sure it's not just you?

If your DH was angry you wouldn't have to try and get his attention.

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JollyRoseSheep · 18/06/2024 21:30

Never have cared for them and as for brother in law when alive, found so obnoxious in every way.

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DoreenonTill8 · 18/06/2024 21:30

she cold shouldered me the first time we met 59 years ago.
You must be at least in your 70s then? Grow up!

nupnup · 18/06/2024 21:31

JollyRoseSheep · 18/06/2024 21:30

Never have cared for them and as for brother in law when alive, found so obnoxious in every way.

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TattieBap · 18/06/2024 21:32

JollyRoseSheep · 18/06/2024 21:30

Never have cared for them and as for brother in law when alive, found so obnoxious in every way.

It's becoming clear why they seated you elsewhere.

If you're as grumpy and rude as you're coming across here then they probably didn't want you spoiling the families happy wedding meal.

DoreenonTill8 · 18/06/2024 21:32

nupnup · 18/06/2024 21:31

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RedHelenB · 18/06/2024 21:34

NerrSnerr · 18/06/2024 21:07

Why didn't you just make small talk with the people on the table? If he gave her away he was part of the wedding party so I'd expect him to be on the top table.

This. You're coming across as very self centred.

Crazycrazylady · 18/06/2024 21:35

Honestly op. It's sounds like you say with a face like a slapped arae T di ber trying to get your poor dh s attention . What were you hoping he could do ? Given you're still so angry a number of days on and that you don't get on with the brides mother anyway it seems likely that you also had a face the following morning over where you were sitting during the meal: everyone probably just avoided you as a result.
Let It go op. It's frankly unusual for someone of your age to be so pedantic about small stuff like this.

watchuswreckthemic · 18/06/2024 21:37

I think you are wrong in this case. The reception and the breakfast aren't about you and your husband. Maybe she thought you would have something in common with the people she sat you with?

YouAreAllMySymmetry · 18/06/2024 21:37

JollyRoseSheep · 18/06/2024 21:21

We were supposed to met up for breakfast but brides mother (cow) moved to table with 2 other couples and her daughter and hubby and left us on our own. I just knew we should have left the bloody place early.

I'm beginning to suspect why she might have moved tables...

Lokshen · 18/06/2024 21:40

JollyRoseSheep · 18/06/2024 21:27

It was not a pleasant evening at all. The others at the table talked amongst themselves most of the time. Still I do not have see them ever again. It has always been like this with my sister in law, she cold shouldered me the first time we met 59 years ago. She did not like another female around and oh boy she showed it.

Given your attitude I'm not only not surprised you weren't at the top table, I'm surprised you were invited at all.
Be happy for your niece, proud of your husband and move on

Meadowtrees · 18/06/2024 21:43

I think it was unkind and thoughtless of them to put you in a table where everyone else knew each other., they should certainly have let you know. I think it was rude of the other people not to notice you were in n your own, so I can see why it stung and was probably a dull evening. Sometimes you just have to force yourself to talk to people- and keep going till they listen, as a better alternative than looking at your plate though! I think most people learn that after their first few dull wedding meals!

BeaRF75 · 18/06/2024 21:44

OP, nobody understands your reaction. It was a completely normal seating plan, and you were "separated" from your husband for only a couple of hours. Not a big deal, frankly. Would it really have hurt to be a bit more adult and gracious about the whole thing?

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JollyRoseSheep · 18/06/2024 21:44

It was the way it was done.

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ilovepixie · 18/06/2024 21:45

My stepson got married. My OH was at the top table. I wasn't as his blood mother was there and rightly so she was at the top table. It didn't bother us as we expected it.

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JollyRoseSheep · 18/06/2024 21:46

We did not as it was a very small reception.

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ilovepixie · 18/06/2024 21:48

JollyRoseSheep · 18/06/2024 21:27

It was not a pleasant evening at all. The others at the table talked amongst themselves most of the time. Still I do not have see them ever again. It has always been like this with my sister in law, she cold shouldered me the first time we met 59 years ago. She did not like another female around and oh boy she showed it.

I had thought by your immature posts you were about 16! But you're obviously a mature woman in her elderly years! I think by your age you should have grown up a bit and wised up!

IncognitoUsername · 18/06/2024 21:48

ilovepixie · 18/06/2024 21:45

My stepson got married. My OH was at the top table. I wasn't as his blood mother was there and rightly so she was at the top table. It didn't bother us as we expected it.

Exactly. This is how it was for 2 of my stepchildren. One time I sat with people I knew, the other time I was with random people. It was fine