child at university 2year

[onherown]

my child is going into 2 year. commuted first year did not make any friends. so decide to have accomodation
obe close friend has also moved to s asme uni but different accomodation. Now my child had said h their friends room mates will who they will probably hang around with. I said but one of the main reasons was to make room mates in student block and to be more involved. we moved our child last Saturday My child has been there a couple of night but only tone person had moved in so they came home and going back on Sunday . tge chat group said three more have now moved in when they checked. i am s bit worried that my child will just hang on to their friends friends now. I don’t know what to say . They did not make one close friend last year just a couple tho text now and then. Am i over thinking

I think you may be over thinking this. Your child is in their second year of uni’, so presumably at least 19. Let them find their way. Their friend’ friend may be the person they build a solid friendship with or they’ll gravitate elsewhere. Take your hands off the wheel and just support your young adult from the background.

It’s hard work but they can do it - lots of freshers events they can go to even if they aren’t a fresher - they can also
join sports activities and gym. It would be better if they didn’t come home for 6 weeks until half term - there is a lot
of evidence to suggest students who keep coming home don’t settle as those that stay and make it through the rough patch and start to enjoy their uni time -they have to be there all the time to make constant and consistent friendships- it’s easy to come home but it doesn’t help them in the long run to make the break they need with home

He has people he wants to hang around with which sounds like a plan to me.

Have you found the Higher Education board yet @onherown, there are a few of us in there who have DC at Uni