I am an older parent, with S, and we have three grown up children. We raised them with love and care. One has been a heroin addict for 15 years and is now thankfully in recovery. We have been very active in helping him and our relationship with him is excellent. He lives in another city about an hour and a half away from us. His mental health has suffered but we have managed to get good treatment. I guess you wonder why I have posted this but I think it is because I know there are a lot of people like me out there and society doesn't recognise these tragic family circumstances. We feel like failures and we grieve for the loss of his life that could have been.