Just that really. We pushed the boat out for 18th birthdays and can’t afford to do the same for 21st coming up. Dd says unless it’s a big amount of cash there’s no point really as doesn’t have any use for keepsake type gifts.
We don’t have lots of spare money right now and whatever we have would just disappear into the coffers, it doesn’t feel right.
So is 21 still a big birthday or just your an adult now, this is what we can do, suck it up?
Have already arranged a family get together to celebrate as there’d be hell to pay if we didn’t but she’s announced that she’s busy with friends that weekend anyway and doesn’t care about seeing family. Am inclined to give her a card……