So I know if I read this I would have initially have said yes but now I'm in a situation I never expected in a thousand years. I have 3 children all close together. A boy then two girls in their early 20's.
I had them but then my first husband left when they were all under 5 as he said ' I love them but can't do this 24/7' . We divorced as amicably as you can and in fairness we remained in our home and he always paid his money under a court order and saw the children for a weekend every 2-3 weeks. I met another man who had been unfaithful to his first wife twice before me but told me I was the one! I felt as I worked 3 jobs and more than full time with 3 young children that he was my Prince. He had two older children in their teens. He left his wife ( I had not initially known he was married and once I did I ended the relationship but he then left her and begged me to take him back) . I felt awful though.... anyway the children were still under 6 and within 3 years we married. He was a good husband but I continued to work full time and manage the house and children. He didn't get on with my son and he later told me he felt emotionally excluded by him and pushed out. On reflection I agree but when I was in the epicentre I tried to please all the children and my husband and when push came to shove I said if he made me choose I'd choose my son. My mum then became poorly and died prematurely and I dealt with her estate and rehoused my stepfather as well as supporting my brother. By the time I dealt with this my husband then left after 15 years by text and had run off with a woman 12 years younger. He never spoke or explained why and never has, then we had a bitter divorce as he tried to take money from my children that they had inherited from my Mum. Then my brother was found dead abroad so I had to repatriate his body and deal with complicated estate. My daughter was close to my ex and now has not seen me for a year and has become best friends with her stepfather and is buying a house with the money my mum left her 20 mins from him and 2 hours from me. She hasn't spoken to me for 6 months and has dragged her sister into this. I think she is angry because I said I couldn't go to her wedding if she expected me to watch my ex ( her step father) walk her down the aisle. Her father won't say a word in case she blanks him as well. So what should I do. I have sent emails saying how hurt I am and that I love her and hate this and had nothing except a solicitor telling me not to contact her. Blocked on fb and no idea what's happening in her life. She was with a lovely guy for years and then cheated on him and started a relationship with the guy she cheated on him with. Less than a year and now engaged to him and planning a wedding. But she cheated on her new guy with her ex so I'm concerned she is making a big mistake. As no one talks to her honestly as they are frightened she will exclude them I think it's going to be awful... it's made me very ill and now on medication from GP. Any advice appreciated 