I've been having problems with my son for the last 2/3 years. He's rude, been through the punching holes in doors and walls stage, never helps out etc etc. But he's doing well at uni. Doesn't pay board and lodging and still expects me to pay for things like writing pads, pens, bedroom furniture. He told me 2 weeks ago that he wanted to spend his birthday with his friends as they were going to a club. I said why not go the day before as family wanted to come over. He stormed out the house and stayed with these 'friends' who aren't doing anything with their lives (he knew them from school, not uni friends). He's now told me that they're not going to a club but staying at the pals' (a group of brothers who were bought a flat by their rich granddad, so live alone) house. I could understand the going to a club thing but this is really pissing me off. Can't kick him out as he's midway through his course.