Playdate etiquette: We met, but should I call her, or will I seem needy?!?

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Invited a friend of dd (2) over to play about a month ago - went well, mother was lovely, brought her young baby too. We agreed we'd meet again.

BUT SHE HASN'T RUNG! Should I call her? Was I too boring? I don't want to seem NEEDY and DESPERATE! (I am of course - in need of adult conversation) Who should make the first move?!

Please advice.

Phone her - she can always make an excuse!

Oh, phone her! Nothing wrong with seeming needy, everyone knows what its like. She might like to be needed.

She might just be really shy, or busy, or have lost your number or something.

Could you arrange an outing somewhere with another friend, and invite this lady along too?

Maybe she's feeling the same way? Agree it is really her turn, but maybe she's unsure about what you thought?

Give her a call and ask if she wants to do it again - if nothing comes of that then forgot about it and try someone else.

Don't think a month later is needy or desperate!

yes call her

or text her if you want to be even more casual (only if you have her mobile number of course...)

definitely call her. Phoning after a month isn't needy

Agree - call her.

How about you call her but put the ball back in her court as regards an exact date for meet up. So it'll go something like this ...

'Hi. D'you fancy doing another playday?'
'Yes, that'd be good'.
'Ok. Well I've got a bit of free time the week after next so have a think and work out when you might be able to do it'.

Chances are she'll probably organise it from there. If not, time to focus attention on someone more interested. These things have to be mutual to avoid feelings of insecurity.

Call her but make it neutral if you're really worried about seeming needy (though I'm sure with a 2 year old and a baby she's in need of adult company too).

So instead of "please come to my house again I'm going insane from lack of adult conversation, please, please, I'll be your friend for life, damnit I'll even pay you, in blood if you like," try "hi, we're going to the park tomorrow - wondered if you'd like to meet us there."

She's probably sitting by the phone fretting, MP. Feel the fear and do it anyway.

lol marthamoo

Weirdly enough I bumped into her and we had a chat! She is in the middle of moving but said she would ring me after that. She seemed friendly though...

marthamoo is that where im going wrong then????

moo

katie you r odd!

but in a nice way