So do you worry about one child more than your others?

[roseability]

Came across this word in the Gaurdian today. Sorgenkind is German for'problem child' or 'child of sorrow'

In today's Family section in the Gaurdian one woman describes her Sorgenkind as 'the child she worries about her whole life'

Does every mother have one?

I worry about my DS more than my DD. It is not a question of love. I love them both equally but I worry about him more.

So sorry chegirl

Thinking of you cocolepew.

I wonder if the child that looks or seems most like us, causes some irrational anxiety because we know our own weaknesses and vulnerability? I think this is the case with my DS. I suppose the fact that I had a difficult childhood and the fact that he looks and acts more like me will trigger these worries.

I apologise to those of you with more genuine reasons to worry about your children

^^ interesting point...

I worry about my DS the most. He's 13 and as so many others have said before me... sensitive and anxious.

I wonder is it's not more normal than we realise?

I have never worried about dd1 (11). Even when she was getting some stick at school, she smiled through it, she just copes with everything and is a very happy soul.

DD2 is 6.. she has epilepsy but is a tough cookie... she hits bigger boys if they dare to say anything mean to her and sticks up for her friends. She'll go far in life

I was wondering that as well roseability after reading this thread. DS is the image of me and my dad's side of the family.

Yes DS.
DD seems so secure in her own skin, she is clever, witty, has a tongue like a razor blade (we call her Ena, as in Sharples) but, is also very caring and empathetic.
DS on the other hand was very prem and has loads of health problems. This spring when we were setting his 10th birthday party up, I looked over at him, and it struck me, that he was still alive! which sounds weird, but I have held my breath for years,trying to make the most of his life, because I didn't expect him to be around for long.
God, I have never, ever told any one that before. I hope to god, I haven't jinxed him.

Yes I worry a lot more about DS1.

All my 3 are lovely and very much loved, but DS1 is struggling with some stuff atm. Don't worry about the other 2 hardly at all.

Oh chegirl what a moving post. Don't apologise for what you say about your DD, it is so lovely how you speak of her.

wow - just re-read this thread & most of us are worried about our boys ..... roseability yes i can relate to what you are saying , my ds is the image of myself & he is a very soft natured child - i would love to know how to toughen him up a little bit as he is getting bullied in school .

my middle daughter, she has/has had quite severe mental health problems and has been hospitalised with anorexia - recovery is v up and down

the other two are quite good at giving me less life threatening things to worry about too though!

cocolepew, very similar situation here

dd (13 tomorrow) has had chronical health problem all her life and lately has been feeling she can't cope any longer

don't know what to say to her; I've never had to cope with what she has

cory I hope you can get help for your DD. Reading peoples positive stories on therapy/counselling has helped to ease my anxiety a bit.

ooh roseability, that's made me think! DS2 is my image (so I'm told) and I sometimes catch myself thinking "well, I was like that at his age".