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Naked kids on the beach - would you let them?

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ssd · 30/05/2005 17:52

I mean would you let your say 6 year old play naked on the beach?

Today thanks to the sun at last we went to the beach, it was fairly busy. A family next to us let their approx. 6 year old boy play around the waters edge naked for a while before the cold got to him and he put on pants as in underpants. The other kids ages about 3 - 9 years old were playing in their underpants (all boys).

Now I'm not prudish but I don't think its acceptable to let a child play on a beach naked, nor would I want an older child playing in his pants. My ds1 would never play and run around in front of strangers in only his pants and he's 7, the other kids I mean were older than him.

I don't care what anyone does at home or in their garden, but I'd want them dressed more appropriately at a beach.

What do you think?

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JustThinking · 30/05/2005 22:10

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JustThinking · 30/05/2005 22:10

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lucy5 · 30/05/2005 22:11

WWW I have to agree with you.

stitch · 30/05/2005 22:13

telling kids to cover up is Not about making them ashamed of their bodies, but about them having self respect.
i cover my body up not because i am ashamed of it, but i see no reason why i should allow strangers to see it. same goes for my kids
its like that advert for the tshirt bra. where the woman says that if she wants a man to see her bra, then she willl let them as opposed to showing every tom dick and harry your lacy bra through your tshirt!

JustThinking · 30/05/2005 22:15

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LGJ · 30/05/2005 22:16

JT

Walk away, do not even go there..........

There is no correlation, just walk away.

Please

lucy5 · 30/05/2005 22:16

oh please don't say that!

stitch · 30/05/2005 22:18

well, as i said, i am probably naive. but i dont intend to restrict my children to four walls because i am scared stiff of paedophiles. i can only hope that by looking out for them as much as i can, and empowering them with life tools, they will not become victims.

in persia, (i think) a few centuries ago, the mother of the crown prince was so scared about her kid being assasinated, she kept hiim locked up till he was an adult. needless to say he was a tad insane when they let him out.

life is for living, and kids need to be allowed to be kids.

stitch · 30/05/2005 22:19

sorry, have i missed something?
i hope i havent offended anyone?

stitch · 30/05/2005 22:19

jt, what situation are you in?

WideWebWitch · 30/05/2005 22:19

Justthinking I have to go now but I absolutely disagree with you: the contributory negligence argument is an absolute load of old toss designed to let disgustingly behaved reprehensible MEN off the fucking hook for behaving criminally and doing something that is plain wrong, illegal, immoral and wicked (sorry to sound like aloha but the word wicked is totally appropriate here). Please, please, don't apply this argument to yourself. It would be very, very wrong to do so.

LGJ · 30/05/2005 22:19

JT

You are bigger, than that daft thought you just had.

WideWebWitch · 30/05/2005 22:20

But I hope you're ok and I'm not having a go at you.

JustThinking · 30/05/2005 22:21

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LGJ · 30/05/2005 22:21

Stitch

WWW

Just summed it up perfectly.

stitch · 30/05/2005 22:21

www, i didnt understand your post.
your description of paedophiles is excellent. and they should never be allowed to get away with it.

JustThinking · 30/05/2005 22:22

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WideWebWitch · 30/05/2005 22:22

stitch, my post was to justthinking, who is applying contributory negligence to her own position.

LGJ · 30/05/2005 22:22

Stitch

Ever heard the expression if in doubt say nothing ???

stitch · 30/05/2005 22:23

someone please spell it out to me. what have i done wrong?

WideWebWitch · 30/05/2005 22:24

stitch, I wasn't having a go at you, if you search on justthinking you'll see what I meant by my posts, I REALLY have to go now!

JustThinking · 30/05/2005 22:24

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LGJ · 30/05/2005 22:26

If I said two adults and one was defintley not consenting.............would you know what I was talking about ???

And if you figure it out, please dont post it on here, just a yes or OK will suffice, believe me.

LGJ

stitch · 30/05/2005 22:26

omg.....
please do not, under any circupstances think it was your fault.
lots and lots of positive vibes for you. and i hope they lock the bastard away for a very long time.

LGJ · 30/05/2005 22:27

JT

You OK

Stitch

Sorry I was trying to avoid this.