Did I Do The Right Thing?

[TheLadyEvenstar]

Very quick background history.

exp and I split up when ds1 was 22m old. he saw him on n off for 8m then disappeared. This went on for a few years and partly because i allowed ds1 to dictate whether he wanted to see his father or not...MY MISTAKE! anyway when he was 7 I met dp and we went on to have ds2.

DS1 has had behaviour problems since he was 4 1/2 to the point that police have been called by neighbours because he screams so loud and throws himself around. He has seen a child psychologist and they all come to the same conclusion, HE WILL STOP WHEN HE IS READY AS HE KNOWS WHAT HE IS DOING!!!!!!!!!!

So today he kicked off again, i text his father and told him i needed to talk to him as a matter of urgency and for once he actually replied he called me up and we spoke for 35 minutes. He has said he is happy to see ds1 as long as he is not going to muck about again and chop and change his mind as it hurt him when ds1 did this. It was left that I will talk to ds1 and let exp know by next weekend what ds1 wants.

I am at the end of my tether to the point that I am looking at boarding schools for him.

Pisces, thankyou! I don't know that I could have kept sane these last 2 days without you!!!!

I am surprised that you didn't get more replies-I kept bumping it up in the hope that someone with a similar experience would reply. Good luck.

Thanks well I had a quick chat with dp this morning and he agrees that the visit should be left for a while if at all. So this evening we are going to have a chat with ds1 about it all.