Misunderstanding at school

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My six year old and two year old daughters have a best friend for years now, never been to each others house but had a good number of playground visits. I made a mistake of saying to the best friends father that their daughter was like a third daughter and I'd called her a pet name angel. He confronted me saying it was weird, I'm not a father figure and we occasionally go to the playground and that his wife found it weird too. I explained that I didn't mean to be weird. The mum has blanked my girlfriend since and the father aggressively stared at me yesterday on the school run. It was meant to be a warm friendly comment of how she's an extension of my daughters because of their bond. But instead it's been turned into something very ugly that I don't think can be solved now. I understand parents being protective especially of men. I've said the wrong thing and because of the aggressive response I can't explain my way out or try to brush it under the carpet. But I still have to see these parents everyday. They are also part of a click of parents that have isolated my girlfriend and I on a number of occasions such as blanking us, being weird or shitty, making plans or chatting without us. I honestly hate having anything to do with the school run or parents

Bit OTT thing to say, im mean shes not a niece or relative. Its one thing kids having friends, but that sounds like you're getting too attached. Which is weird. A red flag to them.
Have you asked your wife, is she ok?, maybe shes feeling down, sad, depressed, worried.
Maybe shes need a bit of tlc, rather than you saying stupid things to the wrong person.

I guess I’m going to go against the grain here possibly because I trust the fact that if you were worried enough to come on here to ask about it , you genuinely don’t mean it in the way it’s been perceived. Unless there is of course a back story we don’t know about. Some people are genuinely over sentimental, perhaps enjoy the fact their young children have a good friend who they love to play with regularly and it’s your way of expressing the warmth of that. I know if it was me , I’d take it that way and not jump to thinking you were some weirdo. Especially if you had tried to explain. I can understand however that the duration you have known her and the fact it’s play park might add some raised eyebrows but to completely isolate your gf and ghost you is quite immature to be honest unless they have strong reasons to suspect something untoward. I do find it more odd however that you then randomly mention a toxic relationship with your gf which makes me think there is a lot more going on, perhaps she has said things about you to other Mums, or, they are seeing things in the relationship themselves which appear unhealthy between the two of you and have decided to give you both a wide berth. As others have said, the interests and safety and security of your own children needs to be prioritised. It’s a shame if they can no longer hang out with best friend and the 6 year old maybe upset to. I’d sit your gf down to discuss. You haven’t mentioned whose kids/ shared kids. If they are yours and not hers, then perhaps that’s too high an expectation of her to look after all of their bathing etc Either way you need to get aligned practically and emotionally if you are to stay together and have a good healthy relationship for your children to model and thrive in. Forget the school gate focus inwards .

Your 6 year old and 2 year old have had a best friend for “years now”. Not possible and makes absolutely no sense. That’s a child your kids have played with and you have used this to exaggerate their relationship. That’s what the parents are weirded by!!!