Honestly how do we get them to wear shoes?

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My lovely 14mo DD is starting to find her footsteps and we are anticipating that she will be walking on her own imminently.
As such we have got her feet measuresmd and done the thing we all seem to do and picked up a pair of well fitting Clarks pre-walkers.
She loves to hold, play and look at them but the second you put them anywhere near her feet she is catatonic. Absolutely will not have it, and will just cry and do everything possible to remove them until they come off.
We have got some softer style slipper type shoes and we find the exact same reaction with these too.
Socks however she is unbothered by.
We have even asked nursery if they can have a go and they have reported the same result back.
My question is, does anyone have any advice from dealing with something similar?
We are going to give a try to those socks with the shoe style sole on the bottom and see if they work for her but I am currently doubtful.
I don't want this to turn into a big traumatising thing for her if I can help it and want to keep it positive and friendly as much as possible.

Just want her to be able to explore outside just as much as she is indoors!

Thankyou, wise council, in advance!

Kinda hardline. ‘’DC to go outside not your in buggy you need to put these of your feet’ ‘wear these and you can go in garden’ even tiny kids get it

I find people under estimate the power of making 1-3 year olds decide.
want to play out in rain = wellies
the end

No shoes, no going out. Ask nursery to do the same.
The shoes arent optional.
The adults are in charge not the child.

She's too young for shoes. She doesn't need them until she's been walking properly for a good few weeks. After that, chances are she'll wear them because otherwise her feet will hurt and she'll get used to shoes on being associated with being allowed out of the pram.

As above. If she wants to go outside then she has to wear shoes.

It goes like this

DD - "siiiide" (outside)
Me - "Lets put our shoes on then."
DD - "no"
Me - "well we can't play outside without shoes"
DD - "siiiiide"
Me - "Shoes"
DD - "nooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo"

Repeat until they give in.

I had a shoe refuser, but he was a little older (2+). Refused to put on shoes after toddler club....it was pouring with rain, so I just marched him out to the car in his socks. He quickly decided that maybe shoes would have been a better option.

I have to say, I took the same approach with refusing to wear a coat. OK, we'll go without....oh, you're cold now, are you? Well fortunately mum brought your coat just in case.

14 months old is a different prospect, however, possibly too young to make the logical connections.

She's not actually walking yet so by the time she is she'll probably more biddable.

Keep going and getting her used to walking. She's only just starting to balance while upright.

Wellies are great rather than anything that is more fiddly to put on and take off. The child is usually able to pop them on and off themselves, really quickly, in case of wanting to go out and in only for a couple of minutes. The potential for them being good for splashing in is also something attention grabbing.

Depending on how much she will take it on board, I might also ask nursery to start saying something similar to what you may do at home: "You need some shoes with your socks for this floor, because you will fall over if it's too slippy." This isn't always true, but it can be.

Clarks shoes aren’t any good. I was told my a podiatrist when mine were little to not wear them.

Agree there is no need to force wearing them unless they are walking outside and then they only get to do what they want when wearing foot ware. Or they learn by stepping on stones and stabbing toes.

My oldest had a pair of pink sparkly Ugg style boots she was given and refused to take off. She also had a collection of wellies, starting with soft indoor styles then gradually moved on to outdoor ones. I think all 3 of mine preferred wellies to shoes at first.

Why force it? We just left them to it they worked out what they wanted

She’s 14 months. Too early. She will get it soon and go and collect her shoes and point at the front door to go out.

Mine both walked at 11-12, months.
we live up north. They were walking in winter…definately needed shoes at 14 months so not to early !!!!

Children don't need proper shoes, like the pre-walker ones until they've been confidently walking for six weeks or so. You're a little early with the feet measuring and proper shoes.

Something like leather booties/slippers so they can explore outside are useful whilst learning though. With those, just put them on and wait for the crying to pass. Put them on when you're already outside and there is something fun to do so she's distracted. Point out other kids wearing shoes and that you're wearing your shoes. But ultimately, put them on and wait for the crying to pass. It's a very common reaction to first shoes.

Pffft, mine spent a lot time outside in socks. Was fine. Lots of wet socks and lots of spare socks. Obviously I made sure the ground was suitable, but it was mostly playgrounds or grass. There was a lot of carrying in slings so easy to pick them up if the ground got too difficult.

She doesn't need shoes, she can't walk yet!

Just leave her to get on with it. If she doesn't want to wear shoes right now that's fine. She won't be going to school barefoot.

Just get moccasin socks or sandals to get her used to being slightly more confined and work your way up. It's not exactly mid winter yet, so you have plenty of time. I remember ds1 trying to bite the shoes off his feet in Clarks when we first got him fitted while the teenage sales person tried to convince us that he liked them. Within a few weeks he got used to them. It's a big change for them to begin with.

Thanks for the comments on this thread. I'm a ftm who doesn't have the widest support network hence why I was coming on here to ask.
I don't know if I'm too early or dragging behind on whether shoes are something she needs to be doing right now, I just wanted to know if there was anything that others had tried that might work particularly if this carries on as she gets older.
She's 14m old, and I can't negotiate or reason with her as the limit of her language is saying the word "dog" and "yeah".
Deffo appreciate that it's not the most urgent of missions, but one I can see on the horizon.
Thanks all ❤️

Babies walk anywhere between 11-16 months. So only you can judge when outside shoes needed. Nurseries will expect shoes on walking DC.
yes barefoot is best but mine both took to walking in the depths of wet northern winter and both were in FT nursery

Mine wore the leather slip on bootee style shoes (all were well walking before a year old) they used to say give them 6 weeks walking before buying shoes.

they don’t need shoes yet.

We used those moccasin sock things at that age, thhs have a thicker suede sole but feel like a sock.

i agree with this. I have so many photos of my twins at that age and they were never wearing shoes. One memorable day i dropped them off to nursery in the double buggy, when we got there they’d both taken one shoe off each and chucked them into the road somewhere. I had to comb through our route from home to try and find them before finally getting to work. They get the hang of it eventually!

Grippy socks ? I'd keep her out of shoes for as long as possible and go for very flexible soles when you do. I kept mine out of shoes until they were running really and walking in pavements/shops

Don’t stress it and find some really stony local walks for motivation 😂

Mine would only wear wellies until about 3.5 😂

My ds was walking before he was 1, and I used to put his shoes on as the very last thing before we went out the door and say 'Shoes on to go outside'. Just had to repeat it consistently before he got used to the association.

He's now 18 months and will fetch his shoes if I say we are going for a walk, as he knows it's part of the routine.

Just insist you are the parent