Struggling with my 10-year-old's behaviour and need some parenting advice

[Lesley2022]

Basically my daughter is 10 she doesn't listen to a thing that is said, she loves to wind people up and constantly seek attention. It's driving me nuts. I give her consequences but she will continue to do the same thing straight after the consequence is done. She tells her big sister all I do is shout at her but all she does it be naughty, I praise her when she's done something good but she seems to love to wind me up. She is horrible to her 4 year old sister and her 14 year old sister I'm a loss I don't know what to do anymore. I'm scared she is going to grow up a horrible teenager and hate me! Any ideas would be wonderful.

Stop shouting and ignore, ignore, ignore! Don't give her attention for bad behaviour. Sweep up your youngest and leave the room, look busy and chat and laugh with your other two children. If she follows you and tries to bug you, calmly say 'I'm not speaking to you while you're being rude. When you can speak to me properly, they you can join in' then ignore some more. The important thing is to look unbothered and a bit bored rather than shouting and getting worked up - that is what she wants.

You will have to be consistent as she will probably escalate at first, until she realises that the behaviour is not going to achieve what she wants. When she behaves well, really engage with that and tell her what great company she is and how much fun you have with her.

Thankyou so much for the advice I try to ignore her but she keeps following me and being persistent and then she hurts her sister to be told of which I carny ignore, not sure what to do about that x