Not long separated and we have a joint gmail account we used for bills. I was trying to sort out changing names on the accounts and stuff and realised my ex has changed passwords on some of our bill accounts. I asked him and he said he hasn’t been on them. As he is prone to gaslighting me I checked google activity to see if I could pinpoint when he had done it and instead I found he had been looking at porn while looking after our 2 yo. He has an android phone and it logs internet history when logged into the gmail account.
I could see the date and times were just after I’d dropped our child off so I know said child was awake at the time. I confronted him and he admitted he had seen some “content creators” on Instagram so he’d looked up their names and then porn came up so he’d scrolled it for a while but he hadn’t touched himself or anything. I can believe that because he used to do this during our relationship and I’ve caught him multiple times scrolling porn which he says he does when he is bored or depressed.
He says I’m psychotic for getting upset over it, is this as big a deal as I think it is? I cannot fathom why anyone would look at porn in the same room as a child 🤷♀️ we are under a voluntary children’s services team due to his abusive behaviour towards me in front of the kids but they visited him and did not have any concerns about his parenting to warrant me stopping contact. Is this reason enough they would take further action?