Have 1 19yr old son.
Worked and finished an apprenticeship.
This year he has discovered alcohol and started meeting up with friends. We were happy with this as he'd always been stuck in his room on technology for hours.
Anyway he recently "came out" and said he had met someone, this person turned out to be trans....again not a problem and we supported as best we could.
He has had a history of mental health and a little self harming which i foolish put down to his sexuality and thought coming out would have helped.
Anyway he has turned into the worst human being his room is disgusting he comes home when he wants and refuses to do anything he doesn't want to or asked of him and talks to me like im crap!
He's started self harming again massively and refuses to speak about it, just says it and addiction and won't have professional help and hes stopped taking his antidepressants saying I forced him on them.
His boss has noticed his wrists and has approached me about it.
Today came to a head.
He'd been out from 5.00pm yesterday evening and got home at 1.00pm today, we had no idea where he was and ignored any contact we made.
I admit I did loose it with him and told him I wasn't prepared to let him carry on like it.
He said he blamed me and his dad for his life, wished he'd never been born and that he hates us and living with us so I said "go" live your life somewhere else then!
He packed his bags and went.
So now what?? Im breaking my heart but I know it can't continue as it is he has no respect for us!
I hate to say at this point I don't even like him anymore, but I hate myself 😪
Also to add both myself and husband have had serious health problems and only last week I was in hospital as an emergency, he just doesn't care !!