10yo ds looking at porn on the web, help!!

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Hello all!:0 I am new here and have just been hit by the sledgehammer of my 10yo ds surfing for hot sexy babes on the web. I first discovered it last week and installed the parental controls that come with my browser but it turns out that they are complete rubbish cos he is still able to search and find all sorts of nasties. I had 'the talk' with him earlier today and explained that I didn't want him to find out this way and that I trusted him not to do it again and predictably as soon as my back was turned he is looking at stripping and 'teen sex' on utube
Help!! What do you lot suggest I do next? I am obviously banning him from the PC for a few days but I need a longer term strategy- he's always responded well to 'being trusted' before but this has failed me big time today

I like the joy of sex plan - might learn something myself...
I must admit that the Nuts plan was a really bad one on reflection, I don't want to be a prudish parent though so J o S sounds like a good compromise. I have ordered a couple of 'puberty manuals' from amazon today so we'll see what they're like.
They don't give you information like this at ante natal classes do they??

with regrds to junior ccounts -on my aol settings i can choose what they can access under certain screen names so instead of leaving the pc signed on in my screen name i made up a junior account giving them access to only v suitable stuff it really bothered them and they realised the privilege of trust in using an adult account

ok i have been curious about this for a while. my ds is nearly 10 and is so far not showing any interest (that i am aware of!) in this but would like to be prepared. his dad isnt involved so am going it alone. i want him to have a respect for women but not to think his curiosity, when it appears is wrong.
any tips about things/what to talk would be great. i really am concerned about getting it right!

dylsmum dont worry it WILL happen generally secondary school is the place it all happens.

We too hve to do spontaneous fone checks looking for undesirble videos

AND (this is a topic close to my heart can u tell) im amazed at the pics school kids share on sites - several of ds friends (girls) are in full school uniform posed v sexily and sultry and it does worry me that theyd fall into the wrong hands ....

We have our computer in a very public place so that I can be passing at any time. I also check the history and the DSs know that I check the history. There are some truly horrible things on the internet.

i guessed it would be nearer secondary age- he's in year 4 now so still 2 yrs in primary, so am hoping i have plenty of time to work things out. my biggest concern with the internet is that he knows more now than i do about comps and things, so if i can figure out how to work parental controls etc- he'll get round them if he really wants to.
maybe if i am honest about things as issues come up we ewont have too many issues

A few years ago BILs 2 boys found and printed out photos of beastiality. Then proceeded to show them around the playground. Cue traumatised children and the police getting involved.

My mum burnt my bro's porn stash - he still got more though.

I think it's more about the doing something naughty and taboo behind your back that is the thrill. Showing him the Joy of Sex will not stop the thrill of that!

so glad to read something else about this, I was called into my ds1 school at end of year 6, saying that some parents had reported pornographic sites being created by chidren of the school. Turned out he and his friends had photographed pictures out of "where do babies come from" and posted that along with rude comments and stick drawings of the girls at his school. Had a long talk with him about how its normal for boys of his age to talk and think about sex but not to post private thoughts in the public domain of the internet. I don't think he actually realised anyone else would see the stuff as it was on one of these networking friend type sites (like myspace but for younger kids - forgot the name now. Think he learned his lesson - hope so - not sure how to keep policing it without disturbing his privacy! He's 12 now.

Madamez's suggestion of books to leave around for DS to find is spot on. I'm going to try to subtly arrange this for my DS1 (12yo). Far better to see this mutually kind and respectful (albeit slightly cheesy)image of sex than learning to fetishize body parts in a girlie mag.

I found out my 9 and half year old was searching for pics of women at his grandmas house on the computer, she found it in the history and we was both shocked, but not as shocked as when i sat down and spoke to him about it. He was so embarrassed......i thought of visiting the docs for advice, but seems its normal???

normal maybe ...

premature sexualisation of children ...yes