whats the best way to deal with your parents, when they constanly compare your dc to others?

[stinkycat]

hi dd is 8 months and already has quite a few little cousins.
my problem is dd is constanly compared
its usually stuff like sleeping eatting and stuff like physical looks like comparing whos got the biggest hands and most hair and stuff
maybe alot of it is idle chat but im getting fed up of dd being constanly compared, its not because she doesnt sleep or at well, because luckily for us she does
and of course i think shes beautiful

its just every single thing dd does is compared.

mainly by my mum and dad and shes always compared to there other gc dds cousins

do you have any advice on how to deal with these constant comparrisons

Think it's just par for the course really, it's what grandparents do.

I usually just glaze over and nod occasionally.

Yes ignore it. It's very annoying - you have my sympathy!

If it really upsets you, tell them straight.

constantly compare them to other grandparents.

yes but i think if i tell them straight ill look like a right pratt,
they'll probably say well we onlt said so and sos got more hair than your dd ffs
well not quite the ffs
but you get my drift

ive thought about saying do you reakise you constanly compare dd ?
whst do you think to this approach ?

if they say no what do i say then ?
something like oh just an obversation really

LOL at constantly comparing them to other grandparents.

I think that's an effing brilliant idea and am going to employ it instantly and enthusiastically.

It is so fucking annoying. And pointless. Why do they do it? Why? Why why why?

Because they're parents and hence do a whole host of annoying things that irritate the hell out of me.

For example, mine (well, to be fair, just my mother):

Constantly and nauseatingly says that DD is going to be a pianist (because of her long fingers when she was born. All babies seem to have long fingers when they're born).

Constantly compares DD and me as a mother to her when I was a baby.

Refers to herself as 'Mummy' and in the 3rd person. e.g. 'Mummy is just worried about you' (I'm 37).

Asks how I'm feeling all the time - in that patronising therapist kind of way.

Goes on and on about why she isn't helping with DD.....

Oh God I don't know how you've coped for so long without bursting! Thankfully my parents side doesn't have anyone to compare to other than me, but I hope the in-laws aren't going to start, I'm not very tactful when tired!