Unwanted cuddles

[ShillyShallySherbet]

How would you approach it if your DC told you they don’t like it when a family member cuddles them?

My DM always has always given my DC a big cuddle and a kiss when she first sees them. My DC (Primary age) told me they don’t like it so I have gently asked her not to and I think I’ve upset her. I feel awful but also I don’t want my children feeling uncomfortable around her. My eldest was at the point where she was saying she was scared of my mum. It makes me sad as I want them to have a good close relationship. Have I handled this wrong?

You did the right thing. No there's nothing wrong with wanting to hug your grandkids. But they are people with their own likes and dislikes too. If you were aware another adult didn't like to be hugged you wouldn't ignore that. DS is 3 and knows he can ask for a hug and others have to ask to give him a hug.