my son wants to be late to school like dad

[dylankempton]

When my 10 year old son goes to stay with his dad, his dad gets him in an hour late to school, at 10am instead of 9am. My son is adamant its okay to be in at 10am because the teachers don't tell him off. When I try to get us out of the house and to school on time, my son argues that we are not going to be late and its okay to be in at 10am. I've asked his dad to get him in on time, but he doesn't seem to care. I'm not sure what to do to avoid the conflict with my son in the morning, thanks

My dd's school would not stand for this. Have they been in contact with you or dad? If dad can't get him in on time, he can't have him over night during the week.

Point out at Primary I the parents responsibility, so you will get in trouble, not him. At secondary (next year?) He will likely get in a lot of trouble.

The teachers wouldn't tell your son off. He is in the care of a parent who has responsibility to get his child in on time. The days he is an hour late will be marked as unauthorised absence. Hopefully his father will receive a fine shortly and change his ways.

Not sure how to avoid the conflict with my son in the morning
You can't. As his parent stand firm and have the conflict every morning until your son realises you're not going to back down on this. Good luck

How do you know he is there at 10 every day with his dad? I can't believe if it is happening a lot the school have not been in touch. It might be worth discussing it with them and asking for them to have a word with you son (not a telling off) to make it clear that 10am is not ok so he puts the pressure on his dad too.

Thank you very much for the advice :)

I am a teacher and have a child in my class who is regularly late (not by an hour though!!) I never told her off or even mentioned it as I believe in primary it’s the parents responsibility and the child isn’t to blame. However at parents eve the parent told me that her child is dreadful at getting out of bed and asked me to tell her off if she is late, as it is her fault. So I did. She is now very rarely late!

Perhaps you could have a word with the teacher and ask her to have a word with your son when he is late - not tell him off necessarily, but make it known it isnt really on and it does matter. That should at least make him care more on your mornings, and he may even ask his dad to get him there on time?

Sorry just saw someone else gave exactly the same advice 12 hours ago 🤦‍♀️