26 month old daughter holding in her poo! 😫

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Please help I'm well and truly at my wits end.
My daughter for a while now has held in her poo. She is not constipated, I see when she gets the urge to go she clenches her bum and her legs go stiff to stop it, her poo is soft when she does go but some poo has started to escape when shes clenching and I'm changing so many nappies a day. Doctor prescribed lactulose but it just made the "soiling" worse. Ive tried positive reinforcements, rewards for when she does poo but nothing seems to work. Has anyone else had any experiences with this or reccomend anything to help? Please say it gets better.

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How's her speech/understanding? Is she able to tell you why she doesn't want to poo? Is it scary? Does it hurt? Does the plopping noise upset her?

Have you tried pooping her on the potty when she needs to go? I am wondering if she doesn’t like the feeling of doing it in a nappy? I don’t mean full on potty training, just to see if it helps(the squatting position is good for pooping too).

Pooping not pooping(although it is apt!)

@Ohalrightthen ni she can't tell me why she won't, 😫she's not potty trained at the minute that is our next step though which we will be starting very soon. She knows what 'pooing" is as I always make a point in "celebrating" her baby sister when she goes and she'll join in singing and clapping

@Thesearmsofmine I thought that might be the case too. She wont tell me when she needs to go and when I try to move her when she's clenching she stiffens up and won't sit down. We've tried sitting on the potty to see if she'll go but no luck 😔

@pigcon1 thank you