Anyone elses kids utterly obnoxious on returning from the Grandparents?

[Amethyst8]

DS has come back from his GP's today and is being really unpleasant to both me and a little to his DS but not at all to DH. Even told me he wanted to go home this morning . Has hardly got a word to say to me and keeps shouting at me when he does speak.

Don t suppose it helps that they treat him like the crown prince there, they have a garden and we don't and no one EVER EVER tells him off about anything. Not showing it but makes me feel really sad.

I would show it! How old is he?

He needs to know his behaviour is unnaceptable, but you still love him. Maybe you need to have a chat with DH & then the GP's about setting some common rules & boundaries. After all a GP's role is to spoil & treat their GC's but not to the extent that they ruin them.

Difficult one for you!

It might also be that he's just realised how much he missed you. I know it's an odd way of showing it, but I sometimes had similar when I'd picked my DCs up from nursery, or if I'd been away overnight. Agree with bossybritches that you need to make it clear that his behaviour is unacceptable, but also try to find time to do some one-on-one nice things with him and be extra sure to praise the good things he's doing. He'll have had so much attention while he's been away, it's understandable that he's a bit miffed coming back to "real life" with a busy mum and another child - even if it's not acceptable.

snap, either that or he completely ignores me.

He also shows off when they come over and that can lead to being a PITA.

It's just a reaction to seeing you again. Often it's about relaxing and not having to be on best behaviour.

Dp's aunt always tells me how when she picks up her kids from the gps they immediately start arguing and fighting, having not argued at all while staying there.

Makes you wonder why you want them back sometimes

Yes Armadillo I agree!!

I think you're right it's the security of knowing they are back on familiar territory & they push the boundaries & re-test what they are ,I think ,having had the boundaries/rules relaxed with the GP's!

Little darlings

Oh mine have always done this and they are 6 and 3 - despite being "as good as gold" while they are gone. DS is actually getting better and just seems to need to go out into the garden and have a kickabout - wonder if he is slightly smothered and just needs a bit of time out? But he used to be dreadful, real boundary testing stuff and DD is still like that.

yes

I put it down to illumious ice lollies, trifle, jelly, chocolate and other crap

@ olive - the GP diet eh??!

Dd came back once and said she'd like soup for breakfast from now on because that's what she'd had at grandma's.

Grandma had gone throught the kitchen cupboard trying to tempt the royal guests tastebuds for her breakfast and they eventually settled on soup.

mine have cocopops crunchers of some crap

next time in Tescos, whine whine, we want cocopop crunchers, I said they are rubbish and full of crap we are not buying them

dd1 told my MIL that 'she wasn't eating that crap' next time she stayed

ROFL hahahahahahahahahahahah

Yes mine are treated to the delights of tinned shrek pasta shapes and character yoghurts and that dodgy bear shaped ham. They don't get "special" child food at home ever. But it is more than just the food, otherwise they would be the same after every birthday party.

But diet fizzy drinks are ok because they don't have sugar in them. (So says grandma)

You are so NOT alone!!

When mine come back all I hear is 'nanny dosen't do it like that' or 'nanny lets me do it'

I don't care what Nanny saysshe's just undone four years of parenting in 24 hours!!!Grrrrr.......

Feel better now. Some posts really made me giggle. DH thinks it is punishment as well. When he was smaller, we went for a weekend away and left him with PIL and he wouldnt look at me for about a week after. Think he likes being there but maybe some complicated feeling about me abandoning him or something. Or maybe thinking far too deeply about it .

Anyway he has been horrible all afternoon and in the end I told him if he was going to come back as unpleasant as this I would have to think about whether he could stay there again. Really don t like threatening him like that but is not really a threat because we will cut it down if he carries on. Cue huge tantrum then five minutes later a cuddle and I Love You Mummy and he has been ok since.

PIL are Welsh and the other day I made Cawl - Welsh lamb stew for DH and DC. DS refused to eat it so I told him this is what Grandma and Grandad eat at home "No they don't" he replies "They eat Ice cream" says it all really doesnt it?

DD is 11 months and a couple of days with Granny (even in my presence) already makes her over-excited, and that's with my DM more or less keeping to my routine. What on Earth is waiting for me in the future!!!

Absolutely - it happens with both sets of grandparents - we call it post grandparent stress disorder!! And all the grandparents are pretty good at telling them off too (in between the spoiling of course)

DD1 is like this, too.
I blame the 100% sugar diet.
Literally have to prise her from the ceiling on her return.
Am amazed at the crap she's given... Coco pops, endless biscuits, ice-cream, lollies and this quite often in one day x100.

I am chicken with regard to challenging GPs on this .

If I am there DD1 goes mental when I start imposing boundaries around food

On the plus side... DD knows she gets none of the crap at home, and doesn't even ask for it.

And I guess that's what GPs are for!