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Should I tell my partner about surprise holiday?

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Pantana90 · 10/09/2019 12:58

My partner and our 9-month-old son are currently on a three-week holiday in Florida. I didn't go with them.
Basically it's my girlfriend's family holiday, and I went two years ago with them. I didn't get along with some members of her family and I really didn't enjoy it. I asked her if she could just go for 10 days so I wouldn't be apart from them for too long, but she said she was going for the full 3 weeks. I was offered to go by her but the thought of going on a holiday where I (aged 30) and my gf (aged 33) are told what we can and can't do wasn't appealing.

They left about a week ago and I am really missing them. I thought I'd enjoy some me time but it's boring and 3 weeks is a long time to be away from your baby son! So much so that I have just booked (at great expense) to head out to them for just five days from this Saturday. Should I tell her about this, or go ahead with my plan to just randomly show up as a big surprise? I think she'll be happy either way.

I am a bit concerned about what her family will think because I would be staying with them, but it is my son I am really there to see and I can't be told to do anything regarding him apart from by my partner.

Any advice appreciated!

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Knittedfairies · 10/09/2019 13:10

If you're staying with your girlfriend's family, I don't think you should just turn up as a surprise. How would you feel if one (or more) of them turned up to surprise you while you were on holiday?

CodenameVillanelle · 10/09/2019 13:11

Tell her for goodness sake. You should have discussed it before you booked it!

Floralnomad · 10/09/2019 13:13

If you are planning on staying with them then you definitely need to tell them . I’d also be a bit concerned about a 33 yr old who would rather go on a family holiday than a holiday with her partner and baby .

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Namechangeforthiscancershit · 10/09/2019 13:18

If you're staying with the family you need to warn them.

Whether to tell GF or not depends. I personally HATE surprises but I'm very boring like that!

Aria999 · 11/09/2019 05:51

Tell them. So much could go wrong if you don't.

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