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Very determined, nearly 2.5 girl: no longer wants nappies but many accidents

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MiriamRo · 03/05/2019 16:15

My nearly 2.5 girl (she was born in December 2016) has decided she no longer wants nappies ("No nappiiiies! Knickeeeers!"), so we have been potty training her for about a week. It is still much more misses than hits though, and she would fairly often refuse to go on the potty - though on other times she would happily go, and she has also shown the initiative to go herself when she needed, including for some poos.
She goes to nursery full time though, and at nursery so far she has only peed in the potty once or twice, and I am under the impression that the carers there would like me to stop and have another go in a couple of months.
I am a bit torn because whilst it's still more misses than hits, she has shown she can do it plus she is determinded that she does not want nappies. She is my second but my eldest is a boy and was born 2 months premature and is not someone who would throw himself into new things, so we ended up waiting until he was 3 so I don't really have much in terms of comparison. Could it be that she is actualy not ready even if she wants it so much?

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Seagullslanding · 03/05/2019 16:25

I really wouldn't go back to nappies. the nursery should be working with you and her to help her. my youngest was the same at home , lots of accidents, but at nursery she was excellent. At nursery they constantly take the potty trainers to the toilet, literally every half hour. At that age they get so engrossed in playing that the forget to go to the potty.

MiriamRo · 03/05/2019 17:02

Thanks Seagullslanding! Staff at her nursery are wonderful so I really don't think it's laziness - I have the feeling they think she's not ready, although they wouldn't say it straightforwardly (it's Britain after all! :)).

But again she is the one who said "No more nappies!". As I said my eldest was severely premature so I am just used to defaulting on waiting longer, but she is oh so different.

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Abra1de · 03/05/2019 17:04

If she’s keen, go with it!

You have a long weekend ahead, which is good.

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Sparrowlegs248 · 03/05/2019 17:06

I'd go back to basics, bare bummed for a day or 2, then loose joggers. Tell her to try for a wee when you think she needs one.

randomsabreuse · 03/05/2019 17:09

Reusable pull ups? Or normal ones but reusable might be less like nappies for her?

Keep a degree of containment but allow some control by her - as it sounds like an attempt to control things that she can.

We broke all the rules with DD when she trained - put her in pull ups for a month or so after our first attempt because poos weren't going well, and then when she was consistently asking to go rather than us nagging she got it instantly.

Couple of incidents where she misjudged how long she could hold on when doing something fun but other than unexpected disasters (motorway, no junctions, traffic moving at 10mph, nasty stomach bug type situations) she's been reliable.

Still need bribery for "before we go" wees though - stubborn little thing!

teaandbiscuitsforme · 03/05/2019 19:57

My DD refused to wear nappies any more but she also didn't have a clue what to do. We were recommended the Oh Crap book and I always recommend it now because the method is so straightforward.

I'd download the book and try it this weekend with the extra day. We've just trained DS who's also in full time childcare so I understand the pressure of making sure they're secure with it!

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