uh-oh......dd (7yo) is going to end of term disco............

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She has arrived downstairs in 'heehiles' (that's high heels to you and I!)and a short skirt! It's one she's well grown out of but "look mam, it still fits"

Obviously I'm not letting her go in what she's chosen (her underwear can be seen) so I've managed to persuade her to wear a nice dress but now she wants to wear make-up! It's only 'dress-up' make-up though. I'm still not decided, can't really be meany Mam again after the skirt issue.

I'm doomed when she hits the teens aren't I?

Is it tonight?

Will you get the line how all her other friends will be wearing short skirts, make up and heels? You have choices. Call the other mothers and if you all feel the same say no minis, no make up and no heels. No argument from your daughter on that basis. Or, do something you don't want because someone else has agreed to it. Pick your argument. If you feel you have to give in to something pick the one you find least offensive. I would hate all of it but would rather my daughter wore a bit of make up (could you comprimise on nail polish instead?) than a short skirt and heels.

Yeah, at 7 o'clock.

Nail polish I can do, good idea. I don't really know any of the other mothers so can't ring around but the heels are a no-no anyway. They were bought for 'dress-up' not for actually going out so she knows they're out and the dress has been decided, nice length below the knee.

Nail Polish is always fun and feels 'grown-up' (I still feel that way on the rare occasions I put some on!)

Mind, if 'twere me, it wouldn't be a question, mine will stay locked up in the basement until they're at least 25...

Oh I'm glad I'm not the only one who feels that way. She's obviously easily pleased because I've just suggested the nail polish and she's singing up there now picking a colour. Thank god, I thought I was in for a night of whinging!

Well, we're all set - nice dress, sandles, pretty hairdo and nail polish

Thanks for the idea.

How did it go?

Hi NAB, went great thanks.

She was happy after I put the nail polish on though you could hardly see it as I only have very light, almost clear polish. Think it was just the novelty.

I have to say I was a little shocked at what some of them were wearing. I thought she'd say 'see, I told you Mam' but thankfully she didn't seem to care. I felt like a real prude tbh, maybe I'll chill out in a few years

Thanks for asking

oh no you wont, i am still really strict on the clothes dd1 wears in public, and she is 15

I didn't see this thread last night but if I had done I would have said don't worry about what she wants to wear because, believe me, you will see some much worse sights!!

I was mortified when DD put glitter gel on her cheeks and hair before her school disco but when we got there it paled into insignificance when you saw 7 yr olds with make-up trowelled on, high shoes and skimpy little tops

actually i dont mind a little bit of glitter gel and lip gloss, as long as the body is covered and no high heels (i have dd2 who is 10, as well)

Yeah, I really couldn't believe the amount of make-up and lack of clothes!

I actually felt bad for dd because what she had originally chosen was not all that bad in comparison(sp?)As I said, thankfully she wasn't bothered.

I don't mind the dressing up at home and playing 'mammies and babies'. She has an imaginary husband too but outside it's just different.

Well, I'm glad I'm not alone in my thinking anyway. Thanks for making me feel less of a meany mammy

whenever i get the "so and so is allowed to do this or wear that" from any of my kids, i just tell them that might be true , but i am their mum not the other persons parent, so they have to like it or lump it

That's exactly what I say!

not a lot they can say back really is there, they tend to just mutter under their breath and sulk