I have an English daughter aged 32. She has 2 children.
Shamefully, I had an affair 6 years ago with a Polish woman who I met abroad whilst working which (accidentally) resulted in another daughter. She lives in Poland with her mother (and elder Polish half sister).
I have never told my English daughter about her half sister in Poland.
Historically, my English daughter always yearned for a sister and my wife and I regret not having any more children. We are in our 60's. I am 68.
I have to tell terrible lies to both my wife and my English daughter in order to go and visit my daughter in Poland. Which I do about every 2 months.
I miss my Polish daughter, now 5, very much. But I love my English daughter so much and don't want to hurt her. And I love my wife very much and don't want to hurt her.
I just don't know what to do.
Should I tell my English daughter that she has a very young half sister living in Poland?
I am deeply upset and ashamed of myself. But want the best for my wife, my English daughter and my Polish daughter.
I would love any advice. Especially from anyone who has been through such a situation or similar situation.
Thank you for any help.