Why am I so annoyed when people bounce my baby?

[Glitterbug83]

Ever noticed how some people will hold a baby who has either clearly just woken up or fed and incessantly bounce them until they fall asleep again or puke? My brother in law seems to keep bouncing my 9 week old and it's clear she wants to interact... Then when she falls asleep he seems surprised. He has 2 kids of his own too. Today I asked him not to keep bouncing her as a. She'll get used to it and b. He ought to talk to her. Did I do right? I have no idea why it irritates me so much but it really does. He always seems to wake her up while she's sleeping too so I've started putting a black insect net over her car seat once she's dozed off so he can't squish her cheeks/rub her hands until she wakes up. Do I need to chill out?

A baby wouldn't fall asleep if they weren't sleepy so I don't really get your problem tbh?

But he shouldn't be waking her, that would make me furious!!!

He shouldn't be waking her. What kind of numpty pokes a sleeping baby awake?

But it is a bit strange that the bouncing bothers you so much, and I wonder if that's because you're seeing it as somehow bad for her? Do you know why that is? You say he should interact with her but talking isn't the only way to interact - bouncing and cuddling are interacting too. And you're worried about her getting used to it, but the reason babies like being bounced is that they already are used to it - they've spent nine months being bounced inside their mothers! That's why she finds it relaxing enough to fall asleep.

If she pukes on him, though, that's his problem

Please don't put her to nap in a car seat. It's really dangerous. She should only be in the car seat for car journeys. Even then check her frequent. For naps she should be on her back in a cot or crib or Moses basket or on the floor if safe.

We have a lie flat car seat thankfully. Hmm... Maybe I have been unreasonable. I don't know why it bothers me so much but somehow it does. I watch him just constantly bouncing her and internally get so irritated. Irrational I know. What should I do to get over it?