I want another baby but not sure if I'll cope

[Murphyslaw21]

Hi I got a beautiful baby girl (7 months). Pregnancy was not good , diabetics, trapped nerve. Bad back swollen feet. Hated it. Labour awful nearly lost baby and for a moment me too.

However I love being a mum, due to circumstances my husband was not working and between us we got through three months of hell (sleepiness nights, colic, lactose intolerances) now hubby is going to go to work and I know I'll have to do everything. I'm just worried I'll won't cope.

Plus we only have a two bedroom house. No possibilities of extending so they would need to share for a few years until we can move.

I want a small age gap and so want another baby I love my girl so much and want her to have a brother or sister. I love being a mum I feel like I was born to do this. Just been spoilt by sharing the "work".

Anyone been in a similar situation is love to know how you managed . I don't have family to help so it would be just me

I have a 19 month age gap between ds 2 and dd, almost 6 months. I love the small ish gap and, although it's early days it's working out well. Loads of children share a room and it's especially convenient if they're close in age. It would help enormously to have family who could have the kids but I only have the very occasional nights babysitting from my sister and it's fine. You'll find a way to manage!

Honestly I'd say don't worry about it right now, wait till you've more experience of looking after DD on your own and are finding it fairly easy, then see how you feel. I understand the fear of doing it all by yourself when you've got used to help but after a few weeks I think you will find it's not as hard as you feared.

Your dd is only 7 months. If you have had a bad pregnancy then let your body heal and get back to normal.

I had an awful pregnancy and the health professionals told me to wait a fair few years before having another to allow my body to recover from the horrendous pain from pregnancy.

7 months after birth is so so early to be thinking about planning another.

Whats the rush?

Give it a few months of going it alone before you make decisions.

Plus, newborns and babies under 1 (in my experience) are a doddle to look after.

2 is an entirely different story.

Am currently in 12 months and 23 month hell.

It's tough looking after 2 children by yourself when they are so small.

You need to give your body time to recover. At least a year but ideally longer depending on what happened.