spot on, mummydear! AND keep telling yourself that it's not forever.
what i find helps, too, is i remember times w/dd1 has been ill, and how sad i felt for her - her little toys unplayed with, no happy bedtime story, spraying her pillow w/our special 'sleepytime' spray, picking out jimjams, etc.
and i think, i'd rather it be this way
i think of my good scottish pal, whose kids are all grown, and how he savours all his life and always says, 'you're a long time dead.'