am I overreacting?? (thread no 5000)

[morocco]

I work evenings and dh puts the kids to bed a few nights a week. I do the other nights while he is working so we very rarely put the kids to bed as a team iyswim? BUt when we do, I get seriously p####d off by his bath time routine. No matter what I say (or scream, yell, get hysterical etc) there is always something just as bad the next time. Am I over reacting - go on - you can be honest! How can I get dh to see sense???
eg he leaves the 2 year old (and this goes back a few months so he was under 2 the first time) in the bath alone then goes downstairs to do the dishes and tidy up. I admit, I don't sit right next to him myself, but I stay in earshot at least.
tonight he put ds1 who is 3 in the bath and started running the bath while ds1 was in it (hot and cold at same time) then again went downstairs to tidy up. I had to come and rescue ds1 from rather hot bath. do you think he would have had the sense to get out if it got too hot?? I just know I wouldn't have done it.
Every time, it seems to be something like this that just does my head in. I feel like I'm banging my head against a wall. dh won't admit there is anything wrong with what he does.
So - should I take a chill pill or how can I get him to see sense.
Over to you

hey Mo you are not overracting your bubs are too young and you should not run a bath while they are in it!! would he do it to himself?? talk to him about your fears he probably isn't doing it to upset you.. he thinks he's multi-tasking but some situations require you to be there..tell him how this makes you feel (without the screaming)I'm sure he will listen to you.x

I still sit just outside the bathroom door (bathroom too small to sit inside it without getting soaked) and my kids are 4,6, and 8. The 8 year old has baths on his own sometimes (if I have time, if not he gets in with his sisters) and even then he has the door open and I stay upstairs the whole time. As for running the bath with the child in the bath..... NO NO NO NO!!!!

tell him to fold laundry or something upstairs where he can hear the child but never go downstairs.