Table manners at toddlers play date tea times

[handlemecarefully]

Scenario: There are about 6 or 7 toddlers (aged from 19 months to 3 yrs) who have been playing together all afternoon and then have tea together...

Would you expect
(a) all toddlers to sit at the table and none of them to get down until every child has finished eating, or
(b) would you think it okay for individual children to be asked to be excused from the table and to get down prior to their playmates (especially if they are not particularly hungry and not very interested in food)

an 'olive' branch??

I want to come to your house for tea OO - shame it's in Manchester...

Can we let this thread drop out of active conversations now just in case my dear lovely highly esteemed friend (with delightful children) is lurking somewhere and reading it.

Daft of me to post it without changing subtle details really!